Am I the A-hole

meeze

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so last month me and my game wife decide to lvl rng and brd together.
a lvl 59-60 whm in our ls wants to party with us. we tell him there is no waiting we are going straight non stop to 75(we didnt even do af's together, we did them when the other wasnt on to xp) so last week we rip through the 50's and get to lvl 62 on friday. he is still lvl 60. we tell him that tuesday we are going to xp all day, give him our schedule 7 am pac till lunch, hour break, then xp till the night, this was friday night. i asked him to hit 61 so we can pick up a 63 tank.

tuesday rolls around he's lvl 59, short tnl, but still 59. we get over 20k in the morning, he lvls and hits 61 in that session. we break come back and he wants to do an avatar for the whisper, he had made the plans the night before. im like ok, get another whm(actually rdm) take our cannon pt and bang out 4k in 30 min, and then about 5k an hour after that first 30 min.

well he gets all mad that i replaced him and pouts calls me out my name on ls. i told him how i felt about it, he told me i could have waited 30 min for his avatar, i said we had plans to xp already. i apoligize anyway, he ssays its a bullshit apology and that i was forced by my game wife to say it. w/e i tell him it was real, i've known him 8/12 months that i've played this game).

question 1 am i an asshole for replacing him? those who have done avatars or taken part in missions know that these can take an hour just to leave your meeting place.

part 2

so he's in a bad mood towards me making remarks, the next day, yes the next day, i'm joking around with a blm about how they always want an mb( i had made a pt with 2 blms no second dd) and i see "told you he's a dick" then "MT" come across ls chat. /kick Name.
just a little background for you, this is NOT the first time i've thought about kicking him. he is always whining and complaining about not making any money, and how poor he is, but when i offer up ways to make money he gives me an excuse why its not for him. so i give another way, another excuse. he complains about how he cant get parties. about how i make so much money. about how the fucking grass isnt as green on his lawn as on someone elses. when he gets in his mood he brings the ls down.

am i the asshole for kicking him?
 
you might have wanted to ask him something like that: "either you do your avatar or you come exp with us, but you won't get both, and if you don't come exp you might fall too much behind to exp with us again and it will be your own fault" to set his ideas straight, but other than that I don't see anything wrong with your behavior. Hmmm.... maybe you shouldn't have apologize =P since all the shit is basically his fault.

But yeah, I don't think you are an asshole for what you did, I would have done the same. He just had to schedule his avatar fight at another time, or at least warn you 2-3 days in advance.
 
Don't forget the part where I held together you LS when you left twice when you left the game. You, the LS Holder. Did you also mention I'm the longest-staying member?

Yeah, real appreciative.

Oh, don't forget the part of the Avatar where I told you the night before we were to xp together. I worked hard to get your name into that party since I knew you still needed an avatar or two. You tell me "If we're not in xp party". Fine, no biggie. I'll see how it works out, hope for the best. Xp day rolls around and we take the planned break for food. 1 hour break. Oh hey, planned Avatar fight time takes place at the end of the break. Think you can take a half hour to fight Ramuh? I wouldn't stay for the other 2 Avatars cuz I want to xp with you still and not delay too much. And we're gonna xp in Boyahda Tree again right? Perfect, soon as I'm done I walk over to camp and we start up.

Didn't get so much as a "No thanks". I hook up with the Avatar party as Meeze + girl are looking up party members. That can take a half hour anyway. So I go fight Ramuh (which is essential to me getting Fenrir for my SMN31, my subjob) and we're done in 45 min. Li'l longer than I'd have liked, but still not bad for gathering, getting there, and getting done. I hear over the LS "Damn, forgot my sushi". He's in motherfucking Bibiki Bay (a place we didn't xp with me around cuz I don't have CoP yet) with a party.

Double-yoo Tee Eff

Didn't even tell me he was leaving without me. I wouldn't have been so pissed if I got a "Sorry, you aren't here on time, we wanted to xp all day" bit. Even after he finished recruiting. Then I'd have just been bummed and moved on. So, pissed as I was, I keep going with my Avatar party later.

Next day, I'm not saying crap to him or responding to what he's saying on LS. He starts whining like the mage-hater he always was, and starts bitching why BLMs always have to have a MB. Our resident BLM explains a bit. Then I key in Meeze's routine for mocking someone: fake MT's. "See, I told you he's being a bigger ass lately." "MT" /kicked
I swap to my mule. "So am I gonna see that 700k I leant you?" /kicked
And I did lend him 700k. It was for his precious Eurytos' Bow. Poor as I was, I caught a huge break recently and wanted him to get that bow for xp party to repay him some kindness he'd shown me in the past.

Whining? Yeah I do that. It's the way I vent frustration. And yeah after I was asked, I took it off the LS chat.
Poor? Yeah, I'm a mage and still haven't found a proper way to make a living in the game economy, not that I didn't get a break recently.
So there's my side of it all.
 
point is we had xp planned, you made other plans, i replaced you. after seeing how mad you were i apologized and you blew it off as though it was just to shut you up. as far as me bitching about mages, i was joking around with a 66 blm about how they always wanna burst.

i understand i should have told you, i apologized for it. you didnt accept you kept talking shit to me about how i ditched you. next day you are still talking shit. and talking to the people you were /t'n it doesnt sound like i made a bad choice booting you.

i'm glad you are making money now, i just got gil off my mule from the last of myy drk gear. i'm pretty sure you werent thinking i was gonna burn, but if you did...

anyway ls is done. after helping everyone do af's genkais, hearing people ask for help and hear i'm busy from everyone that i dropped everything except xp for its over. i got alot of help outside the ls to do stuff for you guys, which put me in the position to help back. i spent alot time not only doing stuff for you guys but for all the people that i got to help you guys out. and when i see people are too busy farmming, or too busy crafting or too busy staring at thier fucking moogle it pisses me off.

even when ii left half the ls was /t'n for help. it has worn me out i'm finished with owning an ls. take care.
 
Fortress,

From the posts it seems to me the plan was to xp all day long with a break for lunch. You decided that you wanted to do an Avatar run even if it meant it would cut into your scheduled time to level. When they got back from a break they decided to get moving again, and since you were doing something else they built their party and headed out to level. Why do you think he owed you some sort of explanation as to why they went to exp?
 
This is a pretty sad story of two friends who simply could not come to a resolution. Real sad.........
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This just goes to show you constantly raggin your friends down will do nothing but make you lose that friend faster......
 
screw him.... he sounds like a little bitch and if i was in ur position, i wouldnt wait for him XD
 
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