And the hits just keep on comming...

Elemmire said:
Hehe... I refuse to date or really deal with anyone under the age of around 22-23 or so. Too few don't really mature until the end or after college really anyways. Something I noticed from my ex and I who were both younger and whatnot and both immature and now new love interest who is well.. older than me ~_~ and so much more mature.

As for your thingy, ya, I'm guessing that she's far too immature. I know there's the whole "women mature earlier than men" but I don't see that as a truth when it comes to my friends (both male and female). Both seem to be at about equal maturity (or immaturity really..) and don't seem to understand how to grow, hehe... if she can't understand, perhaps you should enlighten her that it'd be too cruel to ask someone to talk to them when they still feel strongly for them yet can't be with them.. that's a Hell unlike any other.. especially if they talk to you about a person they might be interested in or going out with people.. or even just learning they have a new boy/girlfriend.

I don't know the problem really, but for the most part I say it prolly would be for the best if there's such issues with a consistent personality (which is in part due to immaturity and trying to find their personality). She (and perhaps you, I don't know you too well :P) could use some maturing.
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yea it would be absolute hell for me to hear about any other love interests that she might have, i cant see myself taking that without breaking down or going crazy

i know who i am and i know where im heading in life i can say that with confidence as for her, shes still growing up and i understand that she's a totally different person now then a year ago and she'll be a totally different person a year from now, whether or not ill still be a part of her life only time will tell
 
I see your 15 year old girl, and raise you a 13 year old girl who wrote her # on a reciept for a bag of mini-doughnuts from the state fair.
 
I had a 13 year old that kind of liked me when we first met until she found out how old I was which I was 22 at the time. She stopped hitting on me then. Shes 15 now but man she looks like shes 18 or 19. Even when she was 13 she looked like she was 18 or 19. I was getting excited when she first talked to me and then she told me her age. Man I felt such a huge dissappointment lol.

But yeah good luck with her Tok. I'm not a relationship expert so I don't have much to say other than talking to her about the situation and working things out which everyone else here has pretty much mentioned already. Seems to be the best option.
 
Sorry for your relationship troubles.

I doubt that this is a "girls change their minds so often" issue, or a "girls change who they are" issue. It sounds more like this is a "this is a teenager you're dating, and therefore expecting lasting commitment is nigh-impossible" issue. Teenagers are still developing their sense of who they are and what they want out of life; really, it's not like she's changing just to spite you or screw up the relationship, but because she honestly hasn't finished becoming who she will end up being as an adult yet. And she probably won't for another 4-5 years at least. Hence why so many high school relationships end the moment people go off to college, I expect--the combination of distance, change, and growth tends to mean people just grow apart.

And you're only 20 yourself, you have some growing left in you, too. Though it will hurt in the short term, in the long term, you will eventually look back on this as bittersweet.
 
Kreoss said:
Sorry for your relationship troubles.

I doubt that this is a "girls change their minds so often" issue, or a "girls change who they are" issue. It sounds more like this is a "this is a teenager you're dating, and therefore expecting lasting commitment is nigh-impossible" issue. Teenagers are still developing their sense of who they are and what they want out of life; really, it's not like she's changing just to spite you or screw up the relationship, but because she honestly hasn't finished becoming who she will end up being as an adult yet. And she probably won't for another 4-5 years at least. Hence why so many high school relationships end the moment people go off to college, I expect--the combination of distance, change, and growth tends to mean people just grow apart.

And you're only 20 yourself, you have some growing left in you, too. Though it will hurt in the short term, in the long term, you will eventually look back on this as bittersweet.
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i totally agree with all of this

ive come to realize that fretting over all of this is a waste of my time cause honestly there are more women out there that can make me happy

people do grow apart i see it in my friendships as well, people go down different paths and the trick to a long lasting relationship is to find someone who you click with in almost every way and even in the smallest way is heading in the same direction with their life as you

theres way more people in this world then i can count so im sure that sooner or later ill find her, till then ill take these heartbreaks as learning lessons really so that when i do find her i can be perfect for her
 
well...i just broke it off...it got to the point where we werent even speaking to each other, then she broke down and said she was scared cause she didnt know where we were gonna go with our relationship

i fuckin wish i could cut my heart out and bury it in a chest somwhere (pirates reference ftw)
 
Tok said:
i fuckin wish i could cut my heart out and bury it in a chest somwhere (pirates reference ftw)
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you might right now, but that'll pass (in time). hope the best for you, and of course for her as well.
 
Dammit I arrived to late! I was going to tell you to cheat on her. There's nothing that wakes up women's feelings for a guy more that infidelity.

It sounds harsh, but you need to be the cowboy. Your woman needs to be sure you are a man! If you go soft and emo she will laugh behind your back with her friends. You have to take her whole and make her yours or go down in her history as the biggest bastard she has ever met. Yes, when you have a girlfriend they talk about the "love of their lifes" with their friends. The one that broke her heart and never came back. It's not fair but that's the way girls are. Blame it on soap operas...
 
Negorissimo said:
Dammit I arrived to late! I was going to tell you to cheat on her. There's nothing that wakes up women's feelings for a guy more that infidelity.

It sounds harsh, but you need to be the cowboy. Your woman needs to be sure you are a man! If you go soft and emo she will laugh behind your back with her friends. You have to take her whole and make her yours or go down in her history as the biggest bastard she has ever met. Yes, when you have a girlfriend they talk about the "love of their lifes" with their friends. The one that broke her heart and never came back. It's not fair but that's the way girls are. Blame it on soap operas...
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OMG you're so friggin' hardcore Puerto Rican Neg. lmao <3333

I LOVE IT!

Tok, you're a young hep cat.

Enjoy your youth.

Many people who've got the serious thing goin' on this young, no matter how great their life/marriage what-have-you turns out to be later, ALWAYS have some small regret they didn't play the field a bit more and see what else was out there...

Take your time to play the field and just enjoy being young and just having those awesome moments that make life specfuckingtacular. :)

I bet it's tearin' at cha inside, just find some friends and get out there and have some fun with the boys.

When serious relationships come in, you're finding a new best friend, enjoy the company of just bullshittin' with the guys at your convenience while it's around.

- Lec
 
its been a couple months...we've tried working things out but it got to the point where i was constantly giving to the relationship and she wasnt giving back...so today i told her that we should go our seperate ways

i really dont give a fuck what anyone says about this, but im really hurting right now, i feel like i've lost my best friend and i have tbh

i really hate this
 
Negorissimo said:
Dammit I arrived to late! I was going to tell you to cheat on her. There's nothing that wakes up women's feelings for a guy more that infidelity.

It sounds harsh, but you need to be the cowboy. Your woman needs to be sure you are a man! If you go soft and emo she will laugh behind your back with her friends. You have to take her whole and make her yours or go down in her history as the biggest bastard she has ever met. Yes, when you have a girlfriend they talk about the "love of their lifes" with their friends. The one that broke her heart and never came back. It's not fair but that's the way girls are. Blame it on soap operas...
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God, thats the biggest bullshit I've ever read.
First, don't refer to girls who are 17 as women... cause they aren't they are girls...
Second, if you think that cheating on a girl makes her reaslise how much she loves you and will wake her up, you are totally wrong. This might work for some girls, I mean there are many many stupid girls in this world... its sad but they are the reason why many guys have those prejudices against girl/women... oh they are addiccted to shoes, they are dumb etc...
But every clever girl would dump you for this...

The phrase "that's the way girls are" is completely nonesense... you can't say that. We may be difficult and hard to understand... but we are not stupid.
 
Chiimister said:
God, thats the biggest bullshit I've ever read.
First, don't refer to girls who are 17 as women... cause they aren't they are girls...
Second, if you think that cheating on a girl makes her reaslise how much she loves you and will wake her up, you are totally wrong. This might work for some girls, I mean there are many many stupid girls in this world... its sad but they are the reason why many guys have those prejudices against girl/women... oh they are addiccted to shoes, they are dumb etc...
But every clever girl would dump you for this...

The phrase "that's the way girls are" is completely nonesense... you can't say that. We may be difficult and hard to understand... but we are not stupid.
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I have to agree, that's a pretty big dick move. A really good friend of mines boyfriend cheated on her and she was dealing with the whole thing really horribly.
 
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