Relax.
At 59 go to:
Toramai Canal
On the map with the Windurst Wall Exit, there's a camp on the bottom right handside of the map. I gone through that camp on NIN RDM THF DRK PLD.
Good place for 59-61, pugils vs crabs
At F-10 is a massive room full of crabs and pugils. Use them to level up. I stop there at 61 and move to the tree. If you're aggresive 1 pugil will take out a crab with your help, otherwise you need to use 2 pugils. Depends on your playstyle.
Bring reraises, as no one will raise you in that shit hole. Otherwise, it takes 1 sneak oil to get to the camp from the Windurst Walls Entrance (a series of quests is needed to get into there, or you need 3 mages to help you from the other entrance).
And don't lose your mind. If I was like you I'd not have got to where I am now. Trust me on my information
Battles can be somewhat slow there though, crabs are quite annoying to kill due to their resistant to pain . . . .
And just incase you think otherwise:
NOTE: Ignore my gear choices. I simply choose to surpress myself to not die. And these screenshots are recent (3-4 days ago). DRK is my current "project".
And yes, I'm not BST to any event. I'm PLD usually. Unfortunately that is the case for now, hopefully something will change soon, but that's one big hope.
If you want more info/advice feel free to make a topic here. I'll see to it.
EDIT: No disturbances there from me 99% of the time. At one point some retarded person decided to level his NPC there, RIGHT THERE, IN "MY" ROOM.... despite there being 1000+ mobs elsewhere around the zone. He had to be... THERE. Otherwise it's not too bad. Gets kinda lonely there. And watch out for the undead.