Sounds to me that the OP and alot of other people are placing too much blame on these shells and not on the actual individuals choosing to jump ship from whatever shell they were in. No one can force anyone to do anything on this video game. What Rappa said about dangling a carrot is alot closer but even still it comes down to the individual making a decision and to me they are the ones that should be accountable for it not XNameHNMShell.
Over the past 3 years I've seen this trend get worse and worse til where it is now where people can't even wipe their own asses without some approval from their end game shells. I understand the whole, "keep it in the family," mentality as to why these shells decide to throw their hat into each and every aspect of the game because it benefits them and there really is no downside as a result of being that way, for their shellmembers I mean. It may hurt your shell alot but that's really of no consequence to them.
About the only thing you can do is re-evaluate who and what you really lost. If they had such little regard and loyalty for you and your shell then you are probably better off without them. How someone acts and the decisions they make say alot about their character.
And like I said there really are no repercussions to doing this sort of thing but that's only because in general the "community" chooses it to be that way. The next time you see one of your pals that just dicked you over with party flag up, don't invite them to your merit party. The next time they ask you for help with another job AF, some quest, a popped NM, a TAU/COP mission, an event, or even if they just send you a tell with some funny joke they heard, snub them like they did to you. I guarantee that if everyone decided to act like that then alot of this type of crap wouldn't happen so much as is does. I know better though and more than likely the ones bitching now will be back doing assault/farming coffer keys/bcnm runs/etc with those same "friends" that ditched you to go do dynamis or whatever with their HNM shells.
Over the past 3 years I've seen this trend get worse and worse til where it is now where people can't even wipe their own asses without some approval from their end game shells. I understand the whole, "keep it in the family," mentality as to why these shells decide to throw their hat into each and every aspect of the game because it benefits them and there really is no downside as a result of being that way, for their shellmembers I mean. It may hurt your shell alot but that's really of no consequence to them.
About the only thing you can do is re-evaluate who and what you really lost. If they had such little regard and loyalty for you and your shell then you are probably better off without them. How someone acts and the decisions they make say alot about their character.
And like I said there really are no repercussions to doing this sort of thing but that's only because in general the "community" chooses it to be that way. The next time you see one of your pals that just dicked you over with party flag up, don't invite them to your merit party. The next time they ask you for help with another job AF, some quest, a popped NM, a TAU/COP mission, an event, or even if they just send you a tell with some funny joke they heard, snub them like they did to you. I guarantee that if everyone decided to act like that then alot of this type of crap wouldn't happen so much as is does. I know better though and more than likely the ones bitching now will be back doing assault/farming coffer keys/bcnm runs/etc with those same "friends" that ditched you to go do dynamis or whatever with their HNM shells.