Not to open the can of worms, but I'm posting this from a hotel room in Massachusetts with 9 people from my "social" linkshell. I realize you didn't say that EVERY person has these "friends" and we're probably the exception to the rule, but this is the second time we've met in real life in the past year. We come from all over the country to do it, and its pretty awesome.
No beef aimed at you, really, but we're living proof that not everything is sad and addiction and pathetic.
Edit: Among the ten of us, 4 of us are employed fulltime making enough money to live without support, 7 of us are in college/have graduated from college (one of which just finished their second degree, one of which is finishing med school and starting fulltime as a neurologist in the coming months) and we've all done Kings camps, we're all doing Salvage, one of us is 30ish coins from Gjallerhorn, we've mostly all finished Nyzul/Odin/Captain Rank, we're all rank 10 everywhere, several of us have crafts at 80+, and we're all pretty seriously geared. Its not like we're shut-ins with enough bucks to fly cross-country to hang out, we're all real people with real-life accolades and in-game accomplishements.
Also, employment/college overlaps, hence 4+7=11, not 10.