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Well i'm dating this girl and i have a few questions.
1: what does it mean when she doesn't want to tell her friends about you?
2: She rarely wants to spend time together, why is that? (no she is not busy doing anything i've asked)
3: She is always hanging around 2 guys and doesn't want me near them and she doesn't tell them about me. anyone know why?

Sorry for the dumb post but this shit is bugging me.

~Myrrh

EDIT: she has only told one person about us.
 
Going off what you have said it should be pretty obvious. Unless there is more you can tell, all we can say is the obvious conclusion.
 
Get rid of her now. Sorry to say, but if she isn't even making it known you exist as her boyfriend, that's the worst sign. Secrecy is not healthy. :/
 
Myrrh get rid of her. 9 times out of 10 stuff is going on behind your back that you don't need to be dealing with. especially when shes hanging around with 2 guys. that is definitely not right.
 
SHE'S A WITCH!!! BURN HER!!!

But really, if it bothers you that much, just tell her if she doesn't want you to be a part of her life, then you don't want her to be a part of yours. That simple.

As a matter of fact, you should let her read this post. That way she can see how many people think she's being a bitch for putting you in the background.

You may be a dorky gamer, but you are still a person, you deserve to be treated like one.
 
Trippyhippy said:
You may be a dorky gamer, but you are still a person, you deserve to be treated like one.

I know him, The person bit is still up for debate. I'm leaning towards strange fungus.

and yeah, i was noticeing that he wasnt spending much time with her in game, since i could still yell at him to do errands for me, and not se him in the same zone as her.

Two ingame friends of mine, Trigger and Immunity, are nearly inseperable. If they're both online, they're together if at all possible. Thats just how they are.


However, the reason for her not wanting to tell her friends is that perhaps she IS interested in you, but is embarassed to have fealings for someone in a game. Heck, i almost had to beat the crap out of you before you'd say anything.

To the lady (if she reads this): Having a game relationship isnt such a wierd thing anymore. They're everywhere, and perfectly acceptable to those who play the game. Not saying your parents or RL friends would be thrilled about it right off the bat, but they dont understand the social scope of the game.
And if you ARE just leading him on for shits, stop now. Because you are and it continues, you'll forfiet any future assistance from me, Myrrh, or any of our friends. And we're really people you want to befriend.
 
Is this an in-game only relationship?

If so... I have no advice for you except: Don't. Just Don't.

If you know her in real life, the advice i gave before still stands.
 
Trippyhippy said:
Is this an in-game only relationship?

If so... I have no advice for you except: Don't. Just Don't.

If you know her in real life, the advice i gave before still stands.

Ignorance. I know plenty of ingame relationships that have worked out. The example of Trigger and Immunity is a perfect one. They even took it beyond the game. She's already been to see him, and plans to return soon.

dont knock it before ya try it
 
Myrrh said:
Well i'm dating this girl and i have a few questions.
1: what does it mean when she doesn't want to tell her friends about you?
2: She rarely wants to spend time together, why is that? (no she is not busy doing anything i've asked)
3: She is always hanging around 2 guys and doesn't want me near them and she doesn't tell them about me. anyone know why?

Sorry for the dumb post but this shit is bugging me.

~Myrrh

EDIT: she has only told one person about us.

I say all this not ever knowing this girl or you.
I say these POSSIBILITIES because they are just that, possibilities.
I hope its nothing from the bad side, or I hope your making this all up in your head.



The Good Side
1. Shes had alot of people in her business, she likes you and doesnt want people to affect you alls relationship.
2. Maybe shes afraid that shes going to make a ass of herself around you or she isnt sure of herself. same thing.
3. Maybe these guys are her friends, maybe they talk bad about you. Maybe they are like her big brothers and they are very protective.

The Bad Side
1. It was a dare and shes doesnt want to be embarresed be being with you.
2. Shes trying to break up with you or wants you to break up with her so she doesnt feel bad. Shes interested in another guy and shes spending time with him.
3. Maybe these guys have and the girl have talked bad about you in the past.
They all dislike you because of something you have done. They are hot headed and want to kick your ass. Maybe shes boning them.


You should ask her all these questions, they worst that could happen is she tell you the truth and you move on.
Maybe you find something new about her. Hate to break up with her and find out it was all in your head.
 
Meh, my general advise for stuff like this - is simply "If someone is making you miserable....GET RID OF THEM!" Seriously, unless you have years and years invested in this person - I know it is cliche, but there really ARE a million fish in the sea. Move it along....find someone who will make you feel special. Life is far too short to waste your time on jackasses. ;)
 
jender said:
Meh, my general advise for stuff like this - is simply "If someone is making you miserable....GET RID OF THEM!" Seriously, unless you have years and years invested in this person - I know it is cliche, but there really ARE a million fish in the sea. Move it along....find someone who will make you feel special. Life is far too short to waste your time on jackasses. ;)
/nod /nod
 
well we broke and it doesn't bother me(theres a good thing ^^), but damn it why are most chicks confusing. lol i think they need to come with like a book or something cause i spent 14 years of my life as the "friend" and i still can't understand them lol

EDIT: i dumped her, she didn't dump me. NO one dumps the almighty Myrrh, not even you. lol
 
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in game relationship?

whyyyyyy?? I like seeing my girlfriend but maybe that's personal preference, I dont like only talking to them online and seeing them maybe once a month.

Anyways, some people are worred to break off relationships becuase although there maybe me many fish in the see, some people worry about when the next one will come.
 
well i just found out she was cheating on me with someone else and she is still dating the person
 
Chicks are a complex. Like a rubik's cube. Can't cheat, just gotta figure out how to put the right colors on the right side of the cube. If you can figure out the cube, you da man! The same applies to the girlies...
 
Vanity said:
Chicks are a complex. Like a rubik's cube. Can't cheat, just gotta figure out how to put the right colors on the right side of the cube. If you can figure out the cube, you da man! The same applies to the girlies...


That is the one of the best things I have ever heard.... Well said...
 
Well i have been talking to the other person and found out he is a cool guy and i wished them the best of luck and what not. I am not a mean person so i don't get mad a people or hate them. and i asked her to remain friends and they other guy and i are friends lol.
 
You should MPK her. No better way to break up then with xp loss....
 
1: can't mpk anymore
2: i hate people being mad at me for anything
3: i could never do that to someone i liked
 
Vanity said:
Chicks are a complex. Like a rubik's cube. Can't cheat, just gotta figure out how to put the right colors on the right side of the cube. If you can figure out the cube, you da man! The same applies to the girlies...
You can cheat at those, just peel off the stickers and put them where they should go.
 
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