How Long do You Hold Grudges in Game?

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Grudges might be too strong of a word-- and this post might be in bad taste. If so, by all means, mods go ahead and remove delete if need be.

I am sure everyone makes a list of people not to party with. I am sure the list becomes different for the individual. For instance, when I was considering doing a bit of leveling on my Ninja last night the only melee type that was seeking as someone that I'd absolutely never want to pt with again. Where as i struggled to be polite towards him during the duration of the party I had with him-- I kept thinking to myself: "I will never level with this theif again." The party before that it was: "I will never level with that red mage again."

Usually though, when it comes to those "EXP grudges" I would say that by the time I have forgotten about it-- the grudge has passed. I think that people are all subject to change over time. I noticed that we as a community generally adapt to the "If my friend doesn't like you, I don't like you either." In other games that I played (with more PvP interface) it used to be the "An enemy of my enemy is my friend." Do you ever hold so close to personality quirk grudges that you ever find yourself limiting yourself? How long does it take you to just let something go? Whether it be an insult, an arguement, a competition at a camp gone wrong, or even something on the boards?
 
Depends on how it all began.
Sometimes things are instantly forgiven.
Sometimes they are never forgiven.

I'm gonna leave it at that.
 
Aye, depends on the attitude of the player plus what actually happened
 
I was in a party once with someone in Bibiki Bay and as soon as the party started I noticed that I couldn't see anything that person was saying. I then realized that he was on my blist. The only people I have ever put on my blist are people who did something inexcusable in xp party. I had no idea why he was there and he was actually really good at his job and a nice person. So, if I had gone to the trouble of checking my blist before entering party I might not have stayed and I would have been limiting myself. I guess this is an example of forgetting about an xp grudge and thus erasing the grudge itself. I know I put people on my blist when I was a newb and some of them had probably grown and changed just like I did as I got my levels.

On the flip side, I too have sat in Jeuno lfg to avoid ptying with someone I just can't stand to xp with. There are some things that cannot be forgotten. I don't know if I would call this a grudge or just self preservation. This is a game and I want to have fun and hopefully live through an xp session. If I have to avoid people in order to do that then so be it.
 
I don't generally hold grudges in the game. There are a few people that I just don't like and vice versa, but that's about it. There are a few people I used to be good friends with but no longer talk to, but I don't have a grudge against them. One in particular blisted me and I blisted him back, but I took him off about a week later and we just don't talk now. Kinda wish we did but what can ya do?
 
I admit I hold stupid grudges for way too long, and I was forced to accept this after I laughed at a friend for still being angry about a half mean joke that was made almost 2 years ago, then realized I was still holding a grudge over something stupid that took place when I was still without a subjob.

I normally forget the names of nooby players fairly quickly, so unless I see the same ones over and over they don't stick out in my head.
 
I never stop hatin', but I do forget why I hated in the first place. There's currently 4 names on my blacklist and I've never heard of, or seen, any of them as far as I can recall.

Well, except for Roofie. Tried to cyber me at the bastok AH when I was lv20-ish.
 
Rappa said:
I don't generally hold grudges in the game. There are a few people that I just don't like and vice versa, but that's about it. There are a few people I used to be good friends with but no longer talk to, but I don't have a grudge against them. One in particular blisted me and I blisted him back, but I took him off about a week later and we just don't talk now. Kinda wish we did but what can ya do?
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rappa pretty much sum my thoughts up in as nut shell. Why hold grudges does it really help anything?
 
Sometimes I don't know if grudge is the right word. Just like in life you come across people you'd just as soon not have be a part of your life for various reasons, it's much the same in this game, at least for me. I have had my boyfriend tell me that I need to let more things go, that I should just take things with a grain of salt more often than I do, and to a certain extent, he's right. But honestly, the people I have shut out, blacklisted, ignored, or whatever, are people who I would not choose to know if I met them on the street based on their behavior in the game. There are not many of them, but they are mostly people who are either unkind, rabidly egotistical (aka I'm the best there is and all you other peons suck) and go out of their way to make you feel bad because they think they're so perfect, or whose presence regularly causes drama or ruins the game for others. Personally, I try to give everyone more than one shot. I watch and I wait and see if their behavior is a pattern or just a bad day and I decide how I handle it from there. Having a bad day or a bad moment is absolutely forgiveable. But being malicious or hurtful or unpleasant on a recurring basis? I don't call that a grudge at all. I call that choosing your friends wisely.
 
Stouter said:
I admit I hold stupid grudges for way too long, and I was forced to accept this after I laughed at a friend for still being angry about a half mean joke that was made almost 2 years ago, then realized I was still holding a grudge over something stupid that took place when I was still without a subjob.

I normally forget the names of nooby players fairly quickly, so unless I see the same ones over and over they don't stick out in my head.
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im the same way
 
Well I've always held the philosophy that if you made it to my blist, then you musta done something way deserving of being on it. However, this thread has done something positive. I've wondered what it'd be like to start the game over again, fresh and all but have never done it cause of all I've gone through so far to get here.

I've just erased all but the most recent additions to my blist. 2 people now remain =) Maybe a fresh start for me, and a fresh whipe for others.
 
If I add someone to my blist it is because I am having a bad day and just don't want to be bothered by said person. The next day the person is off my list. I currently have noone on my blist. I have a temper and get frustrated at times but I usually get over things fairly fast as well.
 
Yeah, I only hold grudges with 2 people, and if you have been a current QCDN'er for a while, you would know why Karahan and Syliph still are on my Blist.

Other people that make it my blist usually only stay there for a bit, usually until I forget what happened with them lol Most of the time, people on my blist are those spamming shouts and stuff in Jeuno or wherever. Once I leave town, I will take them off.
 
blist whats that? :) i dont see the oint in grudges its a game if someones buggin or not the greatest in prtys note the name never prty with again go on with your gamin ive been playib awile and have never blisted anyone i prob have been blisted but l well lol
 
Rappa said:
I don't generally hold grudges in the game. There are a few people that I just don't like and vice versa, but that's about it. There are a few people I used to be good friends with but no longer talk to, but I don't have a grudge against them. One in particular blisted me and I blisted him back, but I took him off about a week later and we just don't talk now. Kinda wish we did but what can ya do?
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Aye, theres a couple of people that I do miss talking to and would like to talk to again nowadays. Just to think the amount of nights i stayed up talking to some of them, couple of years down the line and I dont even see them for absolotly ages. I *Think* i pee'd one of them off some how and I think I know what i did but im not sure, but hey I sure do miss talking to her. But exactly what you said, what can ya do?
 
I say i will put person on my blist i never do but usally they shut up if they are after attion and works like 90% of the time
 
Forget within a day or so... Real short attention/caring span.
 
Players are unfair if they hold grudges for things they have done at one time or another...

It's time to be real, everyone blows it!
 
I put people on my blist when either I am fed up with their shitty jeuno spam- or when i want to remember to never party with them ever again. For the second one i only put them on if they suck, and they have a shitty attitude. And being taru male nobody ever wants to cyber with me (except for child molesters). And I still remember why ever single person is on my blist. There are a lot.
 
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