I just have this question......

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Shakaar

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Is it so much for me to ask, to have a girlfriend to talk to, hold in my arms, and enjoy her company? I'm so damn tired of spending my weekends alone, with either nothing fun to do or no motivation to go out and do stuff. I can't even enjoy FFXI at times now, it's gotten to that level. For those of you that have girlfriends, what did you do to get her? For most of my adult life now, the girls I meet have either not wanted anything to do with me, or they just want to be friends. What do I need to do to get a girlfriend of my own? I'm at such a loss here. :cry: Yeah I'm really quiet, and don't go out much IRL, so that's probably the main thing, but still....... I've heard of plenty of people like me that still find true love, so WHY CAN'T I?
 
You're going to hate to hear this more, it doesn't matter! While your love might last for 50 years or more(possibly less), what will be the point when your both rotting in the dirt?
ha ha ha. I don't really mean that.

what I mean is:
you say you are anti-social and blah blah, girls like confidence, and guys that can hold up a fairly decent and witty conversation. Work on that and you'll make it Mary Tyler Moore.
 
Man I am like at so much of the opposite side of the fence. But I hear ya!

My problem is whenever I do have a GF she wants to spend too much time with me LOL. Is once or twice a week out with the boyz too much to ask? I like to do stuff on my own sometimes or with friends, and they usually get pissed off at that.

I guess everyone just needs to find that happy medium which is why love can seem so impossible at times.

Oh well.... heres to wishing.
 
Shakaar you probably know from my thread but im in exactly the same positionm although i am starting to go out a lot more then i used to, and im trying not to be as shy as i was.

The statement "girls prefer shy guys" is so much bull, if thats bloody true why haven't i got a girlfriend and my best mate who isnt shy at all has.
 
its funny each one of the responses you expect people to walk into your life when you dont put yourself out into life. Going out doesnt mean you have to go to nightclubs and bars.. you might meet someone at the book store, at a sports game or in a grocery store.

Gotta get out there and put yourself in the mix. These games will do nothing but feed that depression further seperating yourself from reality (which i am also guilty of as well at times).

Bite the bullet and try new things, you gotta learn to care about yourself before you can care for another.
 
dont worry about it, girls come in time... just be yourself, thats really the only way to go unless you just want to get some. well, if its like that, then go get a tan and try to the the 'tall dark and handsom' that so many girls are looking for... by the way, just be glad im not making a beastmaster joke. :wink:
 
Ryme said:
you might meet someone at the book store, at a sports game or in a grocery store.
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Couldn't agree more! You always find the best chicks when you aren't looking hard. Places like this always work. I've met girls in the local Borders, at my street hockey games, and yeah... at the grocery store. When you go out to bars and nightclubs its a whole different game. Low key places like Ryme mentioned, its more easy going and unexpected. Give it a shot
 
Audino said:
Ryme said:
you might meet someone at the book store, at a sports game or in a grocery store.
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Couldn't agree more! You always find the best chicks when you aren't looking hard. Places like this always work. I've met girls in the local Borders, at my street hockey games, and yeah... at the grocery store. When you go out to bars and nightclubs its a whole different game. Low key places like Ryme mentioned, its more easy going and unexpected. Give it a shot
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Street Hockey! :D


I met a girl recently at the grocery store. Although living in a different country than you were born in not only changes the rules, but changes the whole game, you can always rely on the fact that you'll find what you're looking for when you aren't really looking.



But in your case my man, lets be a bit more specific. The word "shy" should leave your vocabulary. People innately gravitate towards people who are interesting and fun... ... or have a lot of money. Well, in most cases I'd say here, none of us have the kind of money that will elevate us into that stratusphere of popularity, so we've got to bring down the basics of personality.

Now, this isn't the rule, and girls will argue to death with this fact... but girls who are reading this aren't normal. (Ladies, thats a good thing too)

Lets setup a scenario. You're at dinner with a bunch of your friends, your meals have been ordered and your having drinks. There are several full tables surrounding yours, one particularly with several beautiful lasses. Now... if your table is kinda dead, you all talking quietly amongst yourselves or not at all... Then chances are your not going to get any attention from outsiders. On the other hand... if your table is loud with uprorious laughter and storytelling, then chances are someone might take notice of you. But you can go too far... No one appreciates loud just to be loud. If someone is yelling and being vulgar then chances are they are getting attention... just the wrong kind.

Synopsys... Quiet loses, cheerful wins, and nobody likes a loudmouth. Incorporate those ideas into how you approach everything, and you'll be much more lucky in life. :wink:
 
I know completely how you feel, I'm in the same boat.

But you know what? I just spent friday-sunday, in Fort Mcmurray with my Sister at collage. I could of gotten laid all damn weekend, but my sister made sure her I couldn't. ANYWAY


Just put yourself out there man, you will meet people.

Also helps if you can impress the ladies by out-drinking everyone in the room who are much older than you.
 
You'd be amazingly surprised what a shot , just one, of your favorite liquor will do for your confidence while out cattin' . Get all warm and fuzzy and before you know it you're talking to girls :shock:

I'm not saying you should drink this shyness away but one little shot works for me. I don't get drunk or stupid it just makes me all warm and I suddenly find myself not caring what she thinks before I give her a real look at me :wink:
 
Strid said:
I'm not saying you should drink this shyness away
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But you should!

Really though just get out, be yourself and yes it will take time. Just giver.
 
Neche said:
Strid said:
I'm not saying you should drink this shyness away
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But you should!

Really though just get out, be yourself and yes it will take time. Just giver.
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Eventually the confidence comes without the shot my friend you just need to build some courage in the department. It's better to try and loose than to not try at all man. Asking yourself "What if" is a bad feeling. What if you let "the one" slip by acting shy? What if....
 
I know I was just kidding.

For me personally I'm only 16, I'm perfectally confident.

I'm 6'5", red hair, decent physique but I'm still a bigger guy. Pretty much, when I was up with my sister, I went into the bar without anyone looking again. It's hard for me to meet ladies, cause the last time I went to a ladies house her father thought I was either someone else and asked me why I couldn't find someone else my own age... :cry:

When I met thier friends and such they thought of me as my 19yr old sisters older brother. She then quickly(to my dismay) told them my real age.

That's really the only reason for me that I don't meet many ladies. But really you just gotta get out there.
 
Neche said:
When I met thier friends and such they thought of me as my 19yr old sisters older brother. She then quickly(to my dismay) told them my real age.

That's really the only reason for me that I don't meet many ladies. But really you just gotta get out there.
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just because of your sister? Does she provide the only presence for us females to appear around you? Im j/k =P

But yep gotta get out, can't sit in a chair in your room all day fishing for people online. You were dealt a hand of cards when you were born, you might as well play them instead of blaming others or society for your own insecurities (not speaking of anyone just in general). 6 billion+ people on this planet... get to work :D
 
All other ladies I know, look like they could be my daughters. :cry:
 
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