Life question

[Master Honcho]

just curious if anyone has ever had these thoughts or questions and if so, what you think...

my whole life, i've always been nice to everyone no matter what and do my best not to offend people or make bad situations worse... i've just always felt... if you're involved in a problem with someone... just be the better person.. take the high road.. let it roll off your back.. i just always have thought that's the best way to handle things... but then again.. you can onlytake so much before you feel like you have to say something back or you may explode.. well i know this is all random.. im just in a shitty ass mood... heres what happened anyway...:


so im playin football with alot of my buddies havin a great time. and i got this friend who i like and i know deep down he's a good guy, but sometimes he can just be a dick.. like rude for no good reason. with that being said, i know im not perfect but i will never purposely try and hurt anyones feelings or be mean. anyway.. so we're playin football and this guy is just doggin on me and another one of my buddies the whole game..(not to mention i was the best one out there and he was just getting pissed cuz he thought he was hot shit) he's one of those competitive guys.. one that takes it too far.. i mean friendly trash talking is fine i think, but when you're being an asshole.. thats not fine. he continuously insulted my other buddy and myself the whole game and i just looked the other way and let it go.. then at the end of the game.. i was on his team and we decided to play zone defense... so... i was playin zone not really manning up on guys.. and the dudes like ' what the hell are you doing marshall? you just standing around?" and note, this guy was playing zone too doing the same thing as me.. and also note there was about 15 people out there and some people watching... lol and note, he did this after a play was over so everyone got to watch me get talked to like a little bitch.... so honestly this just pushed me over the edge..

so i was like ' what the fuck is your problem. im playin zone like u fuckin want so stfu." so he bitches at me some more then we run another play and i try and just forget it.. im running during a play and the fool just pushes the shit outa me for no reason.. so im like wtf is this shit.. it pissed me off pretty bad now.. so the game ends and its over and hes still talkin shit, so i follow right behind him off the field talkin back to him, cuz i was tired of this shit seriously and he pushes me again..... so i get my hands on him to push back then stop and just walk away.. i was just thinking, lets stop this now before we're fighting.. ive been in one fight my entire life and that was after i was hit in the head with a tennis raquet by this dude.. after i just went and speared him and proceeded to kick the shit outa him .. so it takes alot and i just decided to walk away... which comes to my question


what do you guys think? like.. like i said.. i've always tried to avoid situations like this by letting stuff roll off my back when people piss me off.... but today i finally decide to not take the shit anymore and it seemed to turn out bad..which is expected i know but i thought possibly he woulda admitted he was wrong which didnt happen. i dunno.. its just i know you cant let people walk all over u... ESPECIALLY in front of others.. i think thats one of the biggest forms of an insult there can be... but it just seems since i did something, it only made this whole situation worse...i sent the dude a message asking him for an apology and he never said anything back.. so im not even gonna give the guy any respect until i get one.. i think? i dunno. what do u guys think i shoulda done? itd be nice to hear other peoples opinions and no kill him is not an option!


sorry for dragging out a subject that is gonna be hard for anyone to answer.,, im just in such a pissed off mood and had to get all this off my chest lol <3 u guys ;/

 

[Isomiau]

well, i read all that, so guess i'll respond, guy sounds like a complete asshole. i mean its one thing to trash talk your opponent, but fuck if you're gonna talk smack on your own team like that. and the second he pushed you, you shoulda laid him out right then, maybe let the 1st in game push slide, but afterwards, fuck that noise.

I like where your heads at tho bud, positive energy creates positive energy. Look for and expect the best in people and often you'll find it. But sometimes you just come across kids that dont f'n get it.

Its ok to be two different people on and off the field. Competition and adrenaline'll do that, but this kid just sounds like he was pms'n. He mustve wanted to look tough to impress somebody.

Oh, and zone coverage in a pickup game can be vicious if yall run it properly.

and thats all i can remember to comment on w/o re-reading all that, so in closing, shoulda speared him after that last push, and beat the fuck outta him. Then you guys get up, shake hands, and go have a drink.

 

[Bedwarmer]

Guy sounds like the typical playground bitch. Had you actually followed through and pushed him, he would have stfu. Little fucks like this feed off peoples desire to be decent, and thrives off inaction. Next time you see him he'll act like nothing happened. Next time do something. Next time do shove him. There's a really thin line between being tolerant and being a chump. Standing up for yourself isn't some sort of macho bullshit, so don't be afraid to do it!

 

[Master Honcho]

hmm ya both of u guys seem to make some good sense.. if this shit does happen again i guess i will have to just do something.. because yai know next time i see em, he'll act like nothing happened which is pretty shity to me... and ya that was exactly what he was tryin to do.. just make himself look good in front of others by being a dick to other people.. bleh.. i guess next time i'll just have to say fuck it and do something about it

 

[Bedwarmer]

hmm ya both of u guys seem to make some good sense.. if this shit does happen again i guess i will have to just do something.. because yai know next time i see em, he'll act like nothing happened which is pretty shity to me... and ya that was exactly what he was tryin to do.. just make himself look good in front of others by being a dick to other people.. bleh.. i guess next time i'll just have to say fuck it and do something about it

Guys like this you really don't have to "do" anything, at least nothing like a spear and an ass kickin. A simple shove will indicate to him that you are not the societal model he is looking to feed off and fill whatever hole he has in life that makes him this way and he will back the fuck off in a hurry. If you live the high road and aren't attracted by the thought of a scrap than that's rad, more of us should try to live that way, but even Jesus himself would have been like "RAWR!!!!!11!!!Shift+one!!" to this guy.

Just be ready after the shove in case he wants to go to the next level and brawl. :dwarf:

 

[Master Honcho]

Guys like this you really don't have to "do" anything, at least nothing like a spear and an ass kickin. A simple shove will indicate to him that you are not the societal model he is looking to feed off and fill whatever hole he has in life that makes him this way and he will back the fuck off in a hurry. If you live the high road and aren't attracted by the thought of a scrap than that's rad, more of us should try to live that way, but even Jesus himself would have been like "RAWR!!!!!11!!!Shift+one!!" to this guy.

Just be ready after the shove in case he wants to go to the next level and brawl. :dwarf:

noted. appreciate the advice^^

 

[Negorissimo]

You seem to be like me, when I was young. I used to be a very good young man and very humble. I always watched the other guys make all the noise and was always the 1st one to separate guys fighting. I even went to the extreme of defending girls when they were being yelled at. My advice to you is: STOP!

Nobody apreciates what you do and even more people don't even know how good you are. Just be nice to people who deserve it.

My most important advice for you today is: Deal with every problem presented to you on the spot. Don't let rage get a hold of you.

Just like I used to, you take all the injustice and insults done to you. Then you burst like an atomic bomb when you cant take no more. Usually the people you love the most suffer because of this. They suffer more than your actual target... I know that because nobody has ended up ok out of my rage rampages. Then It's even more difficult to calm people like us down. People that are always so nice to others can't understand why they are being wronged. This is what fuels the rage when it comes out and when it's out, it's so powerful that it can't be tamed. You can only pray you don't do nothing you will regret later.

Your friend is lucky you didn't let your rage out.

 

[Master Honcho]

You seem to be like me, when I was young. I used to be a very good young man and very humble. I always watched the other guys make all the noise and was always the 1st one to separate guys fighting. I even went to the extreme of defending girls when they were being yelled at. My advice to you is: STOP!

Nobody apreciates what you do and even more people don't even know how good you are. Just be nice to people who deserve it.

My most important advice for you today is: Deal with every problem presented to you on the spot. Don't let rage get a hold of you.

Just like I used to, you take all the injustice and insults done to you. Then you burst like an atomic bomb when you cant take no more. Usually the people you love the most suffer because of this. They suffer more than your actual target... I know that because nobody has ended up ok out of my rage rampages. Then It's even more difficult to calm people like us down. People that are always so nice to others can't understand why they are being wronged. This is what fuels the rage when it comes out and when it's out, it's so powerful that it can't be tamed. You can only pray you don't do nothing you will regret later.

Your friend is lucky you didn't let your rage out.

very good point.. i know theres been times where ive had other people piss me off and ive taken out frusturation by being a jerk to other people that didnt deserve it and thats definitely not right.

i think i'll just have to start doin this.. i mean im not saying this is an everyday thing.. but like i said throughout my life, ive let people get away with being a dick not because im scared.. because i just felt i was better than that and it wasnt even worth the hassle to mess with.. but i think now thats the wrong way to handle it,, i think i should try and be civil and call people out but when someone starts puttin there hands on me like this dude did... i guess at some point you just gotta do something.. let it out on the person who deserves it.. then afterwards talk about it and hopefully be cool.

;p i just dont see why people can be like this in the first place.. i mean i trash talk while playing sports but im friendly about it... some people in this world are just gonna be a dick in certain events like this one.. and i guess people need to not let them be