Lok's version of dating and it's suckiness

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Ok, I read Amnathyrs post and thought about my present situation, so, like any smart person, I'm gonna vent.

For about 3 months or more, I've liked this girl at my school, (she also goes to the swimming club I attend 4 days a week) one day, people had been saying I like another girl, and I trusted someone (omg, I'm an idiot to have trusted this guy) and told him that I liked the girl I went to the swimming club with.

So, a few weeks or something went by without incident, admired her from afar, and then there were rumours, the guy was the only person I told so, I knew it was him.

Anywho, this girl used to act like I was something she'd scrape off her shoe, but since the rumours have started, she's changed, she hasn't said a bad word about me since.

Continuing on... I don't give a damn about what everyone else thinks, but I am seriously beginning to believe I'm falling in love with this girl.






Oh god that feels better.

Thanks for reading if you took the time to, and reply if you feel like it :D

Lee
 
Howcome you like her so much if she was treating you like sh** before?
 
Indeed we do, few have the gall or self respect to turn down the affections of a beautiful woman; even if she does treat you like shyte.

As far as your situation Lokkin, I'm not entirely sure what the problem is. You like the girl, she's being nice to you. You have two options at this point (or at least two I can think of, I'm sure there are many more): You can compeltely blow her off, after all, she treated you like crap in the first place, her knowing that you like her shouldn't change it one bit. If she really liked you she wouldn't have treated you like that anyhow.

or two (what I think a lot of men would do): Ignore the past and how she has treated you, and run with it, see if there's any chance for a relationship. But don't say I didnt' warn ya.
 
Well being a woman, I know that it's common to make fun of the guy you like, I've done it before, and little boys often do it to little girls, you know? (The 'ol pulling the pigtails n' stuff) She could have done it to get you to notice her, but don't quote me on this, I don't know her, I'm just going off of my experience. If you think she's this type of girl, I wouldn't say just "go for it," but maybe get to know her a little more.

And as always, good luck.

(Funny how this comes from a girl who's perpetually single)
 
Zhaoyun said:
Play hard to get! <_< >_>
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Words to live by. My current girlfriend wanted me for 8 months (I have sources, her best friend, who told me thus) before I asked her out. Dude, it was worth it. 8 months of her wanting what she can't have. Thats lust my friend. Since we started dating we've totally been in love. We do everything together and we have so much fun. Had I given in right away, there'd be no lust, and we'd get bored of eachother. Love is like wine. Give it time, and its all the better when you have it.

Put her off for a while. Give her the cold shoulder (don't totally ignore her, just keep conversations to a quick "Hey"), and let the lust build. I wouldn't wait 8 months, but give it a little time. Maybe only 1 month. Just don't give in right away. If you do that, she's 100% in charge of the relationship, which sometimes is good, but sometimes isn't.

Being the 1 girlfriend veteran that I am (go me!), this is the best advice I can give. Good luck though, women are great. :D
 
Corrosion said:
Zhaoyun said:
Play hard to get! <_< >_>
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Words to live by.
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OR

She could turn get sick of waiting around and fuck your best friend out of spite.

Lok - Find out why she's being nice to you all of a sudden before you do anything. Maybe she's just been insanely shy because she's liked you too, and has dealt with it by being the ice queen. I seen that happen.

Good luck, though.

*cheers from the perpetual bachelor crowd*
 
God knows, I've been thinking that for ages, "What if now that she's heard I've liked her she's 'putting her barrier down?'" so to speak, and I've liked her for about 3 months, the rumours have been going on for about... 3 or 4 weeks? I'm not sure, anywho, I really will have to get to know her better, the extent of my knowledge is her name, second name, not sure if he has a middle name, and that she has a little sister, possibly more than one.
 
Find out why she's being nice to you all of a sudden before you do anything. Maybe she's just been insanely shy because she's liked you too, and has dealt with it by being the ice queen. I seen that happen.
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I agree with this, the other people in the thread are assuming things when it's an uncertain situation. If she does or doesn't have this conversation then you know her feeling either way.

Or you could always just ease into it, short simple convos, trying to learn more indirectly.
 
To anyone giving general pointers, you've already lost the battle. No two women will ever be the same. The second you try to apply a standard method, you are going to screw yourself over. Do what you feel is best. Advice is overrated. And yes, I'm being a hypocrite. :P
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ThatGuyYouKnow said:
To anyone giving general pointers, you've already lost the battle. No two women will ever be the same. The second you try to apply a standard method, you are going to screw yourself over. Do what you feel is best. Advice is overrated. And yes, I'm being a hypocrite. :P
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I've got to disagree here. Some women are VERY similar, and advice is not over rated. If you're like me, and had NEVER been with a woman before, advice is very helpful. I had one of my more "experienced" friends give me some pointers for the first few dates until I was used to it. He wasn't exactly right on what to do, but he was close, and I woulda been fucked (or not fucked, rather) without him.

But also take into the consideration he had met her before, and that he wasn't a clueless person giving advice on a forum. :lol:

Some of the advice we give may be good, but as someone said, its general information. If you wanted the best advice, you'd want to tell people about her mood, how she acts around you (as opposed to when she's with others), if she talks to you in private, and any possible signals she might be sending you (I know you gave a little information, but its too general).

Anyways, I'm rambling, guess I'll leave it with "Good Luck", and "Have Fun", if you hook up with her.
 
Corrosion said:
ThatGuyYouKnow said:
To anyone giving general pointers, you've already lost the battle. No two women will ever be the same. The second you try to apply a standard method, you are going to screw yourself over. Do what you feel is best. Advice is overrated. And yes, I'm being a hypocrite. :P
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I've got to disagree here. Some women are VERY similar, and advice is not over rated. If you're like me, and had NEVER been with a woman before, advice is very helpful. I had one of my more "experienced" friends give me some pointers for the first few dates until I was used to it. He wasn't exactly right on what to do, but he was close, and I woulda been fucked (or not fucked, rather) without him.

But also take into the consideration he had met her before, and that he wasn't a clueless person giving advice on a forum. :lol:

Some of the advice we give may be good, but as someone said, its general information. If you wanted the best advice, you'd want to tell people about her mood, how she acts around you (as opposed to when she's with others), if she talks to you in private, and any possible signals she might be sending you (I know you gave a little information, but its too general).

Anyways, I'm rambling, guess I'll leave it with "Good Luck", and "Have Fun", if you hook up with her.
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Yea, some women are very similar, but they will never be the same. Advice is overrated, not bad. Some general tips can be nice in a situation, but it's more the auto pilot mode that is bad. I know guys who have, like I said, a 'method' they use. They basically just wing it at every woman they want and it's a flip of the coin how badly or kindly they react to said method. Gotta keep what you do personalized.

A lot of girls will notice when you throw stupid cliche crap at them. And most likely, they won't buy it. At least the girls around here sure as hell don't.
 
ThatGuyYouKnow said:
A lot of girls will notice when you throw stupid cliche crap at them. And most likely, they won't buy it. At least the girls around here sure as hell don't.
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Speaking as a "girl" - we sometimes buy into this "crap" because most guys make no effort at all to do nice things for their women (not after they "get some" anyway - they will be all flowers and candy until they think they have you....after that - dates turn into watching him play video games for 4 hours straight.) so anything, even the "cliche'd" flowers, candy, poems, etc. are atleast signs/gestures that they are trying to make some sort of an effort to keep you happy. Honestly fellas, MAKING AN EFFORT - even occassionally, gets most women off...so why is it so freaking hard?!

That is all.
 
To anyone giving general pointers, you've already lost the battle. No two women will ever be the same. The second you try to apply a standard method, you are going to screw yourself over. Do what you feel is best. Advice is overrated. And yes, I'm being a hypocrite.
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This is true

dates turn into watching him play video games for 4 hours straight.) so anything, even the "cliche'd" flowers, candy, poems, etc. are atleast signs/gestures that they are trying to make some sort of an effort to keep you happy.
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-Unless you play video games together :D
 
Lokkin my friend, we be best buds.

similar situation for me, eeckscept for swimming its work. at work i flirt with all the pretty ladies but there is one girl who i really do like. so ends up being i really like her and she might like me. my sources don't know yet. then i went into a time of depression, got out of it, started to like her again. now i know that unless i do something about myself she wont like me. anyway.

here is what you do:


if you think she is out of your league, that she would never like you back, or she is on the verge of liking you but she needs to be awed.
ei.

for valentines day, this girl and i both had to work, so i took the first step. i bought her 2dozen roses, chocolates and other things, covered the staff room in them, then got her up there.

she had to get braces. she was eeckstremely self-consious about them, so i took her aside, told her she looked like a queen, and should kill anyone who said other wise. also i make "happy hats( small origami hats made form ticket stubbs)" great things, when i took her aside, i told her i would make her 1000 if she would smile. so i made her 1000 happy hats.

you have to make it happen before it's too late myfriend. i'm working out, i've gotten into better shape, eating better, shaving more, just to impress her.

make the effort lokkin! just do it up, make her want the hotness that is lokkin!
 
Love sucks! Don't do anything! D:

(Best not to listen to me cause I just have that curse of screwing up any relationship I'm in)

[But I'm hopin the best for you!] :D
 
Well im too much of a shy bugger to even speak to a girl i like so im screwed six ways from sunday
 
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