1st things 1st, grats on 75 playa! Not sure what else i can add to this, but here goes...
To reiterate, mantra is f'n bunk. I believe SE only put it in the game for male mithra jokes.
You need to unlock formless strikes, that way whenever you see ...uses invincible, you can /grin, light your fists up swirlyblue and keep on punching.
Capped penace is just sexy, and watching 3 monks in a perpetual penance rotation, is a thing of beauty.
Go 5/5 kickattacks/counter. Kick attacks are spiffy, plus they give ya tp. And you'll appreciate the counter attacks when you're trying to get ichi off.
I'll never be anything other than a monk, so this is what mine look like...
8/8 H2H
4/4 Guard
4/4 Eva
5/5 dex
4/4 Crit
4/4 Spell Interuption Rate
5/5 Counter
5/5 Kick
0 mantra
1 formless
2 Invigorate
3 Penance
They're your merits dude, there really is no ideal order, they'll be full eventually, so have fun with em, and put em where you want.
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(And yah, I meritted dex, being mithra i'll never catch an elvaans strength, so i played to my race. All the str in the world dont matter if you cant connect. Melee setup is 83+23 dex, with Pahluwan body, it looks like damn near every other punch is a crit. It also allows me to eat meat in more situations. /shrug)