My dad is a drunkie

Legomyeggo

Legomyeggo

I know that's not normal.
Adventurer
Joined
Jan 2, 2005
Messages
5,066
Age
38
Location
Who the hell knows
Can't get him to stop drinking. He's like seriously messing up his liver. Not sure what to do. I've tried quite a few things, nothing really works with the guy, and he still manages to go to work day after day. I'm bout to give up on him haha, it's been like 8 years now. Ideas?
 
Put slowly increasing ammounts of laxatives into his liquors that are already opened. He'll think he's gonna crap himself to death, nobody wants to be drunk and crapping all day. lol.
 
couple drips of eye drops in any drink is said to give a person diahreah from what ive been told
 
btw: I did not say to poison your father. Just saying it works. :wink:

And...

U CAN'T get someone to quit something that they don't want to. You can only help them get through it if they decide to quit.

That is of course unless your a "bossy boyfriend" that gets your GF to quit. lol.
 
im an alcoholic, in a sense, i guess, and both of my parents drink heavily also.

i know first hand there is no way to get someone to stop or cool down unless you approach them and tell them how you feel about their drinking. some people will stop. others just wont care.

the only suggestion i have is to approach him about your feelings. talk to him about it first. if that doesnt work, and he is seriously drinking a lot (every night as opposed to 3 nights a week) see if you cant get your friends or family to help with an intervention, or see if he would go to a help group seminar.

start small. dont think of drastic measures at first, because the person will just think that you either dont like them or are trying to turn against them. baby steps.
 
I have delt with people that had addictions and all I can say is if you express yourself to him the only good that comes out of it is that it may give him a little extra insentive to quit. It could be the thing that gets him ready to quit. Unfortunatly however much you try to will him to quit it won't be enough. I'm not saying that you should give up on him, never give up, but realize that this is something you can't control.

As an example, my father smoking:

I remember how when I was about 6 years old we had a smoking awarness class in school. They showed what healthy lungs looked like and what a smokers lungs looked like. It was really scary, especially at that age, because all I heard is "Your father is going to die!". So over the next couple weeks I had drawn several pictures of my fathers lungs being shrivled and unhealthy, or of him being dead, ect. He eventually saw those pictures and it was one of the only times I saw him cry. I can imagine the motivation that gave him but I can also imagine the extra guilt he must have felt when he failed. He told me later in life that each time he tried to quit it was for everyone other than himself. He tried quitting for my sister, my mom, for me and none of those ever worked. When he was finally able to quit it was because he was ready to quit for himself.

I'm sure he has had many nights wishing he wasn't always drinking. I'm sure he has some deep fellings of guilt about it. All I can say is to let him know how you feel, be there for him, and especially if he tries and fails be there for him so that he knows while he might have failed at trying to quit drinking he hasn't failed/lost you.

Goodluck.
 
I hate when that happens. :evil:
 
Answa~ said:
My dad quit smoking because he had a burn injury from an airbag and the doctor told him he had to quit...

Maybe it will take something drastic like this to make him quit drinking.
Click to expand...

It already happened, 3 times :lol:. He was sent to the hospital back about 8 years ago for a horribly damaged liver. He also missed my birthday that year. Then it happened the 2nd time in December, I'm not sure what it is but I think it's Hepatitis. He missed my birthday again. 3rd time was about 3 months back. Kinda sucks but meh... my mommy is always there :P.
 
_Neosquall_ said:
It already happened, 3 times :lol:. He was sent to the hospital back about 8 years ago for a horribly damaged liver. He also missed my birthday that year. Then it happened the 2nd time in December, I'm not sure what it is but I think it's Hepatitis. He missed my birthday again. 3rd time was about 3 months back. Kinda sucks but meh... my mommy is always there :P.
Click to expand...

Well you better make sure if its Hepatitis. I never knew my fater very well since he left my mom, brother and I when i was 2. But the a few years later for one reason or another, he got in contact and in his own way wanted to make things right. Anyway a year or so later my father was diagnosed with Hep. C, and learned that he had this for a very long time, I mean before I was born " long time".

He learned that his heavy drinking, combined with the Hep C turned his liver to complete shit. But this never made him change what he wanted to do, and that was drink. He had a new wife and a 6 year old son, and he didnt stop drinkning. He wasnt a mean drunk or anything its not like he beat his wife or kid, but he was risking losing his life earlier then he had to, for alcohol.

When I was finally ready to accept him for who he was and try to learn more about his side of the family and where I came from and things like that, it was too late. I got the news later that he had died before I could really know who he was. So please dont give up on your dad. Maybe you can help you father before he makes it imposible to recover.
 
my mom is full blow drunk too but only for about a year now :(

it sucks to have a parent like that, shes always pissed off and mad all the time
 
Same here

Same here man its hard but you know what? Drunks are friggin hard to get to stop...... i might get him to stop for a few weeks but he'll start up again........
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top