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Okay, so some time ago my grandfather died and my entire family went into a huge fight about how his stuff should be split up(He was one rich mofo). I don't have the full details on it all but all I know is I have one fucking insane money hungry family.

Anyways, so after a few months we finally got his Will info in the mail and I am the Contingent beneficiary(All i know is it involves insurance) and my brothers/mom get nothing. Well, to be fair my mom gets her bedroom suit from when she was a kid. My brothers get nothing. Now, I know no matter what amount the money from the insurance is my mom will try to get me to give her some and if I don't I know she'll end up suing me for it.(My mom is fucking insane) But I want to take w/e money I get move out, start a life, buy myself a Cystic Fibrosis vest and what not.

I guess my question is, is there anyway she can sue me to get the money? If there is, is there a way I can protect myself against that?
 
umm before I answer I should say I'm just a paralegal student so obviously your first step should definitely be to look into retaining an attorney.... especially because you've not really given us any sort of details, and of course it'll matter what state you're in, whether or not your granddad had a will, etc.... but I don't think she'd be suing you, she'd more than likely sue the estate. But yeah basically if she even says she's going to be suing you or going after the money, you need a lawyer, one that specializes in estate law and inheritances. Keep copies of everything, keep a diary and write down anything she says that might be useful to you along with dates (and if it was in anyone else's presence). Keep copies of anything the estate gives you, multiple copies, and put the originals in a safe place, one that she can't get into.... get copies of the will if there was one.... documentation is important, and if your mom is biased and/or crazy then you'll need to be documenting that (hence the diary/journal that can be used as evidence). I just came into an inheritance myself from my grandmom but thankfully my family has been awesome and made sure my brother and I got every penny.... good luck.
 
Here's what I know about my family issues. My aunt was my grandpa's nurse for the last 5 years and she was slowly killing him while trying to declare him mentally unfit so she could change his Will. She wanted everything my grandfather had and after he died my family went into a huge fight about his stuff and whether or not he was mentally unfit when he wrote his will.

After that got settled my mom was told to wait for our beneficiary letters in the mail. We just got them and I'm the only one out of my brothers and mom who get anything. My mom is extremely pissed and I know she'll want what she thinks is "her fair share". And frankly I don't want her to take it from me. I have no beef with giving her some of w/e I get but she's greedy and will want a lot more. I just want to make sure she can't go to certain lengths to get it.

Also, I'm in Canada.
 
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It's like Lord of the Rings over there. The power, the greed, and burden. Very ugly situation.

I say be strong and let them try to sue you, and move out of need be. If you give them what they demand they'll never learn, and it'll also be against your Grandfather's wishes. That there is some serious issues.
 
Wow, >.>; well, I would most definitely talk to some lawyers in your area. See what they think of the entire situation. Be prepared and cover your ass so if she tries to sue you, you'll be ready for it.

Sounds like a rough time, I hope everything turns out alright. :)
 
I'm not great with legal advice but I agree that you should seek some legal counsel if you think that she might sue you. Unfortunately money makes some people go crazy. I am sorry that it's affecting your family. I hope that everything turns out well for you.
 
Worst case, I lose my money and forever hate my mom.
Best case, I move out and get a gold plated blow up doll.
 
(I have no legal background, so this is just an opinion)

I dont know if this is a viable legal thing but you may want to move out before you actually inheirit (sp?) so your family cant claim your depandancy at the time of inheiritance, which could give some backing to their claims.

But yeah basically if she even says she's going to be suing you or going after the money, you need a lawyer, one that specializes in estate law and inheritances. Keep copies of everything, keep a diary and write down anything she says that might be useful to you along with dates (and if it was in anyone else's presence). Keep copies of anything the estate gives you, multiple copies, and put the originals in a safe place, one that she can't get into.... get copies of the will if there was one.... documentation is important, and if your mom is biased and/or crazy then you'll need to be documenting that (hence the diary/journal that can be used as evidence). I just came into an inheritance myself from my grandmom but thankfully my family has been awesome and made sure my brother and I got every penny.... good luck.
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This. Make sure the records are kept in an area where only you have access. If they were to stay at a friends place, they could claim they were changed without your knowledge as they were "out of sight"

I would keep a recorder in my pocket for the moments of catching flip-outs or heated conversations, incase someone says something along the lines of "I want that money for myself, you shouldnt get anything", or overall conversations of them demeaning the deceased, (name calling, prejudicial comments, ect)

This may cause a problem, because I have heard mention of "This evidence cannot be admitted as my client did not know they were being taped" but, seriously, who would voluntarily incriminate themselves knowing they were on tape?

Should any physical outbreaks occur.. (I really hope not) make sure to log it, and have someone take pictures you can rely on to back you up in court. Make sure a date / time stamp is also there.

Again, I have no legal background but I have been around the block a few times to know how to cover my ass. Call up a lawyer and shell out some details and ask if they can offer you any advice, or what the family can / cant do. If you atleast take the initial step of that, the lawyer can attest to your case that you were in fear of retalliation by your family over the passing.

Could Solitia or someone please look over this, and attest to it? Im pretty confident in what ive posted but I would hate to give faulty advice.

Hope it works out. Thats a seriously shitty position to be in.

PS: Should everything pass and you get the inheiritance, start hiding it away where no one can touch it, but keep a small amount for yourself (I dont know how much it is, so I cant really dive too far in this). Make sure its out of the way so that if they come after you later, its extremely hard for them to get their hands on it. A lawyer can help advise you on this as well.

PSS: Should you get sued, make sure to draw it out as long as possible and drain her bank silly. Its a shitty thing to do, but so is suing your own family. Fight fire with fire
 
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No advice myrrh just hopes it goes okay.

"Friends and Family are funny when it comes to Money."
 
take the money and move to the states =D

shit youll probably get more for it here since our dollar is for shit now
 
I can't move to the states. If I move out of Canadian I lose my medical coverage and considering how much money it saves and I don't have to pay a cent for anything I'd rather stay here.
 
With an inheritance, your mom can probably sue you to declare your grandfather was mentally ill. However, if you have a good lawyer, you should be able to come out of it pretty well off.

On the other hand, it is an inheritance. I don't know what you canuks do with that sort of stuff, but here in the states we have to spend it very quickly in order to avoid Uncle Sam and his taxes.
 
No advice really. It just sucks that money can come between family. I won't go into details but part of my extended family are pseudo fighting over some left over property. It sucks to see people you felt fairly close to seem to grow more and more distant. That being said, fight for what's yours. My father has always told my sister and I that if he ever gets to a point in which he can leave anything to us "Split it right down the middle. If there is an odd penny, throw it in the pond and make a wish."
 
They can sue you but they more than likely won't win. For example, there is an old building right across the water from where I work. It is prime real estate because it is ocean front. The crazy woman who owned it died and had stipulated in her will "The land is not to be touched". That means no renovations, no knocking it down, no selling it. Her family has had it for 10 years and it is a run down building that they can get millions for because it is in the busiest area of the city. What is in his will is binding. We also had a woman leave a hotel to a parrot when she died. Her family actually had to wait for the parrot to die before they could take ownership. (lol).
 
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They can sue you but they more than likely won't win. For example, there is an old building right across the water from where I work. It is prime real estate because it is ocean front. The crazy woman who owned it died and had stipulated in her will "The land is not to be touched". That means no renovations, no knocking it down, no selling it. Her family has had it for 10 years and it is a run down building that they can get millions for because it is in the busiest area of the city. What is in his will is binding. We also had a woman leave a hotel to a parrot when she died. Her family actually had to wait for the parrot to die before they could take ownership. (lol).
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lol a parrot? >_>;;;
 
Yes... a parrot. When it died they renamed the hotel's lounge after it.
 
You can sue someone over pretty much anything, but they probably won't win. Then you can counter-sue for basically wasting your time and for court fees etc..

Either way, you pretty much come out on top.
 
Hookers and blow dude. Get that paper.
 
Mirewen said:
They can sue you but they more than likely won't win. For example, there is an old building right across the water from where I work. It is prime real estate because it is ocean front. The crazy woman who owned it died and had stipulated in her will "The land is not to be touched". That means no renovations, no knocking it down, no selling it. Her family has had it for 10 years and it is a run down building that they can get millions for because it is in the busiest area of the city. What is in his will is binding. We also had a woman leave a hotel to a parrot when she died. Her family actually had to wait for the parrot to die before they could take ownership. (lol).
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Someone also gave everything to their cat.

In Sweden, you can't give everything to an animal unless everyone in your family is dead. However, nothing states you can't give everything to a human outside your family. When a rich mofo died in Sweden a while back, he gave everything to his butler, whom had been the only one looking out for him in the past 10 years. His family sued the butler.

They lost.
 
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