If someone is a Paladin, in Kazham, using Lizard Amor...then these people need a little reminder of what's going on. Or if someone is playing Nin/Brd and seeking... you have to be wondering what the hell they're thinking. (I apologize if someone has found some weird way that nin/brd can own...first odd combo that poppped into my head)
I have absolutely no qualms with telling a person they need new gear in a situation like the one above, or complaining about a nin/brd

and then leaving that party. I do take this game seriously and do everything in my power to help the leveling experience go along smoother(organize SC/MB, lend people food if they don't have it, have good gear and buy food myself, etc). It's the elitist attitude that I find around the game which annoys me. I personally think my gear is pretty good. Currently I am scrounging up money for all +1 gear and/or the more expensive pieces(Morion Earring, Morion Thalthum etc).
However, there are people in this game who would bitch me out for not having this gear already. I don't know about the rest of you, but I have a hard time making money. Yes, I can craft(which is minimal money at my lvls and would require
more money to raise them), I can mine for hours on end, or I could farm for even longer. Personally, I don't have the time for this! I do it whenever I can, and hope to god I get a quick cash piece, but I don't want to spend
all my time doing this! That leaves me no time to enjoy the game...
So, yes, there are certain people out there who need to be told a few things and in certain cases, quite a lot of things. But there are a lot of people who, like me, don't play this game like a fucking religion. So as long as we come with fully leveled subs, quality gear(albiet maybe not millions in gear), and we do the job we're supposed to do....don't complain.