Hey...hey come here....yeah.....little closer....I'll let you in on a little secret.
(most people suck at their job no matter what it is below 60)
I wish I making it up. The sheer number of people with gimp gear and horrible play habits never really goes away until about 60. Once you've taken a job to endgame, you'll see it too. I had a party in the mid-fifties, the melee planning on making Gravitation:
Melee: Okay, so burst Dispel.
Me (RDM): Um...why?
Melee: It's a Dark SC, you can burst dark spells.
Me: Right...but why Dispel?
Melee: I don't know

the guide says to.
Me: .....
Which brings me to RDM. It's incredibly easy to be bad at, so, most people suck at it. You have to be an absolute master of macros, know your spells, know the mob, have good gear (elemental staves, pretty much all of them, is not enough) yada yada yada. Then there's the actual execution of it all. Wonder why RDM sub NIN for that cool looking dual wield and neglect their duties? Because its a piece of cake. Its what melee do. These people aren't real RDMs, they're THF without SATA that miss a lot and can cast a few spells (if they feel like it).
Now for some random responses.
I just wish that everyone was required to PLAY a job before passing judgement on it.
But then there wouldn't be threads like these so people can explain how much they know about a job never played!
I don't think there's a really set order to refresh,
Anything beyond the PLD is up to the RDM, but the general concensus is PLD RDM WHM BLM DRK. Swap out WHM for SMN, but you get the idea.
Blackchaoshero....I don't even know where to begin. You're a BLM that apparently likes to give out a lot of advice on a job you don't have at 75 or I'm speculating even as high as your BLM. I find it amusing you think Elvaan MP is DEVASTATED by refreshing. Obviously you have a lot of experience being an Elvaan RDM too.
Everybody knows how to be a RDM better than the RDMs do....especially the L46 WARs!!!
ahahhaahahaha *wipes tear from eye* /sigh