Whats the best way to deal with...

[exodusamphi]

What the best way to deal with someone who keeps calling your girlfriend and texting her things like "wanna fuck", "so what happened to me coming over tonight" and etc?

Backstory: They fucked around, did it a few times, and havent seen each other since May when me and the girl started dating. I know she is not cheating, and he is either; A: Unaware that we are still going out, or B: A complete asshole.

So, how would you confront the guy?

So far Ive heard;
Slash his tires
Fight him
Call him and talk shit
or the most reasonable, Call him and ask him whats up, and try to keep things civil.

Input?

 

[exodusamphi]

Emo post should have been in Emo forum... mods can move to RSI forum if necessary.

 

[Isac]

banana in the tail pipe.



No seriously, the civil thing sounds good. Only, id say make your GF tell him you 2 are dating, and then come up to him on a later day and say something like "Hey i noticed you callin my GF with some wrather suggestive things. You know she has a BF now right?" Or something along those lines. Whatever angle you wanna approach the later by that sounds like a reasonable way to bring up the topic at hand.

Who knows, you could end up with a new friend out of this. *shrug*

 

[Tim Wakefield]

Beat some ass!

 

[Arianelle]

Maybe you should be confronting your gf about this? I mean she obviously hasn't made it clear enough that she doesn't want to receive such text messages, otherwise he'd stop sending them. I don't let any of my male friends disrespect my boyfriend in anyway by doing or saying things like that, and if they did it would be the end of the conversation. In that same respect, I wouldn't want my boyfriend to allow his female friends to do things like that. My problem would be with him and him alone if certain text messages started to come in. More often than not, you'll find that those sort of advances were welcome and wanted and the "I have no idea why he'd send me this!" is a cover up.

I really don't think you have any place in approaching the guy because he doesn't owe you anything and that could really just escalate the situation. Let your girlfriend know that you don't appreciate the messages and that she needs to make sure they stop. If she legitimately cannot stop him from making those advances and she tells you that she truly doesn't want that attention from him, wait for her to ask you to step in.

 

[chpal]

The civil thing does sound reasonable. then again, how civil can he be if he texts a girl with "wanna fuck". if anything, beat his ass.

 

[Chiimister]

Tell your gf to ring that guy and tell him to fuck off or something. When he still does not listen and keeps be annoying... then do one of the things you've listed in the first post

 

[Zyndara]

Maybe you should be confronting your gf about this? I mean she obviously hasn't made it clear enough that she doesn't want to receive such text messages, otherwise he'd stop sending them. I don't let any of my male friends disrespect my boyfriend in anyway by doing or saying things like that, and if they did it would be the end of the conversation. In that same respect, I wouldn't want my boyfriend to allow his female friends to do things like that. My problem would be with him and him alone if certain text messages started to come in. More often than not, you'll find that those sort of advances were welcome and wanted and the "I have no idea why he'd send me this!" is a cover up.

I really don't think you have any place in approaching the guy because he doesn't owe you anything and that could really just escalate the situation. Let your girlfriend know that you don't appreciate the messages and that she needs to make sure they stop. If she legitimately cannot stop him from making those advances and she tells you that she truly doesn't want that attention from him, wait for her to ask you to step in.

This is the right answer. It could be your girlfriend just doesn't take the guy seriously and is brushing him off or ignoring his messages and that is her way of handling it. Have you made her aware how you feel about it? I mean, she should have some idea that something of that nature would disturb or upset you (and rightfully so), but have you made it clear to her that you need for such activity to not happen anymore?

In my mind, the ball is in your girlfriend's court. If she's going to continue to make/accept unwanted advances from some other guy, then obviously your relationship is in trouble. Once you express how you feel about it, I'd say determine how you move forward by her reaction. If she handles it right away, I'd say it's clear what her feelings are for you. If she ignores you or allows it to continue, then it shows a real lack of respect for you and your relationship and you should move on.

 

[Kurgon]

You yourself said you don't know if she has told him she now has a boyfriend. Easiest step would be to talk to her and see if she has even told him to stop.

 

[Zaltana]

Civil is usually the best way. But lets face it, guys that think with their dicks don't respond to civil very well.

Get the fact from your lady first about what type of guy this dude is first. and if he's a pig like i suspect fry his ass like bacon.

 

[exodusamphi]

Good responses. I was laying with her in bed when he was sending this shit, and I made it aware that I did not like it, I got rather pissed off in fact. She texted him saying things like "wtf are you talking about", and I asked her why she doesnt tell him about me (She has before, but I think he thinks that we arent together any more), because she doesnt want him involved or knowing anything about her personal life. Hes one of those immature horney guys who will try to get whatever he can take.

I know she isnt cheating on me, nor will she, but disrespect like this from this guy is unacceptable. Im from Texas, and if you know anyone from Texas, disrespect is something that has to be dealt with.

Ill keep a close eye out, if she starts talking to him im going to talk to her, but if she stays good and doesnt talk to him, then ill just be weary.

 

[Tok]

stomp some bitches god damn!