I'd considered editing your post down for the sake of convenience and a point-by-point response, but I think I'll let it stand as is and simply reply directly.
In a way, to be brutally honest, you just proved my point. You saw something horrible practiced under a regime of religious extremists, and because you are "an intelligent person" with "some awareness of how the world works" and "know better" you didn't automatically assume that every person living in this anonymous country was a murderous, hateful, intolerant, obsessed, etc etc etc asshole. And, in all seriousness, you are a credit to your society for it. That's how it's supposed to work.
But.
You do not extend the same courtesy to the citizens of that faraway land, who see the consequences of our freedoms on their television screen, albeit carefully filtered, manipulated, and otherwise engineered by the propaganda machine that treats the United States in much the same way that the politicians of the post-Civil War South treated African-Americans. You imply, frankly, that they don't know any better.
That's condescension.
And again, to be brutally honest, this country was not founded by those seeking religious freedom. It was founded by a broad and diverse group of people, some seeking freedom, yes, but most seeking opportunity, and many involuntarily so. You cannot assign one of our freedoms, the freedom of religion, a higher priority than another of our freedoms, the freedom of speech. The freedom, frankly, to spout racist, bigoted, ignorant filth to whoever will listen. You can decry it for what it is, but it is the essence of a free society that we allow it to be said.
You argue, fundamentally, that the United States should be held to a higher standard than the rest of the world, and I won't entirely say that you're wrong. I will say, however, that contrary to what you might hear from our news services, we actually do a pretty damn good job of being just as tolerant and accepting as we like to imagine ourselves as being. We're not perfect, no, but we're a damn sight better than most of the world, even pretty much all of the so-called "Free World". We're better, in many ways, than we make ourselves out to be, because unlike many countries, we've developed a positive glee for painting ourselves in a negative light. We rarely see the good, because as far as most of the news services are concerned, good is boring. "If it bleeds, it leads", as the saying goes, and it's the most awful things that get the highest ratings. In effect, we have an entire industry devoted to making ourselves look as bad as possible, and remarkably enough, we put up with it.
Because, hey, freedom of the press, right?