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Amidamaru

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So here's the story.
My friend and I met this girl aparently we both liked her, he told me I didint. He showed her to me a day after he met her and I got her # right away.
For days I started talking to her but then something happened and I had to back away from everything. College/friends etc. When I came back into tune with what had happened they started going out. (bummer) But the past months I noticed her behavior with me changes to a more sweeter way more than the normal thing it would be between just friends. And last week I called her and I 'fessed up to her, and she told me that she too had liked me since the start. The day after right b4 we pick my friend up we made out, twice.

Here's the deal, she got extra sweet with me the next few days untill sat I felt something changed... she still says ily etc but that night since we went us 3 out together I felt kinda jealous but I had to understand that when he's around she can't be herslef around me with me and viceversa. So I got like rly pissed off but i didint say anything to them just was on my own.

Now I'm rly kinda confused on what she wants and I wanna know wtf is up... I wanna know what she's going to chose and it puzzles me because after she started going out with him she decided to open herself up to me and also kiss me & somethings else.

Any advice...?:bb:
 
Depends on how good of a friend it is. Personally, I always operate on a friends first basis, and most of my good buddies play by the same rules. It's a rare occurance between us, but if something similar were to happen, we sacrifice the girl to the Gods of friendship and both stop dealing with her.

Of course, if the dude is more of an acquaintance (and I'm guessing he is seeing the way you kind of betrayed him already), then maybe going after the girl is the right choice? Personally, I don't see anything good coming from the situation either way, because if either of you ends up with her there will be animosity between you, but I obviously know nothing about any of the involved parties personalities so I'm basically speaking off of experience and observation.
 
sounds like a hoe and as much as everyone loves a free hoe I would say "Thanks for the offer, but I'll have to pass" do it in auto-translate too.
 
Auron X said:
Bros before hoes amid!
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lol I was going to say that. Sounds like she wants the best of both worlds. If she really "liked you from the start" or whatever, then why not leave your friend for you? Regardless, don't let this fuck up your friendship with the other guy... And don't fool around with her anymore. That's just bad news if she continues to see him.
 
It can be a sticky situation, but I'm pretty certain it's one many of us have been through before.

I don't think it really depends on how good of a friend he is to you... right now he is under the presumption he is the one dating his girl and is not expecting his buddy to be messing around with her. You may like the girl, but something has to speak to you about how she's acting, especially if it's gotten the least bit physical while she's still preoccupied with him as a primary.

My point is - say she leaves this guy eventually for you because the grass is greener on your side, you're down a friend because most people cannot handle it when they lose out on a woman they like to someone else, and then suddenly you find out three months later that she's doing the exact same thing to you. It lacks any type of steadiness and is only presenting a poor choice for you later on.

Of course, this is just my advice, and everyone sees things differently, so feel free to disregard, but really look into her moral character, and perhaps your own, for messing around with her.

I don't mean to sound like I'm preaching, because hell, I've done worse... but my point is I've learned from it. I really screwed up a while ago with my friend's fiance and nearly lost them both over it... so my advice would be to drop it and let her make her choices, and quit living behind the scenes.
 
Forget how high the friend rates on the friend scale. Stay away! If a woman is with someone else, backoff! I've always been of the opinion that if she can do it to them, she can do it to you.

This rule becomes useless if you are not looking for a relationship and are just looking for a quick romp.
 
I'm a 1 on 1 man myself, but because this side isn't represented, I feel obligated to play devil's advocate <.<

start a 3-way relationship. you know you want too, I'm sure it'd be fun <.<


just fyi, I do not personally condone more than one person in a relationship <.< but I had to tease you either way Amid =P you know me ^^;;
 
Sounds like a girl I'd write off. If she does it to your friend, she'll do it to you, eventually. Though, truth be told, everyone is always lookin' for someone better in your age group and I like to think even forever.

Personally though, even with people that are even a semi-friend I operate like a friend. The only difference is that if a friend cuts the girl loose she's still not fair game, she never will be even if given consent. Just think about what this guy is to you, even if he has betrayed you in the past. If he's a friend you be a man and cut her loose. If he's just someone you know and bump in to every once in a while, she's fair game but really, like I said earlier, I wouldn't want a flirt on my side.

You could also play the douche card and go for it anyway. It really doesn't matter. As much as I'd like to tell you to go with your heart, I've come to realize through my years that friends are more dependable in the long haul. You'll also need to consider what your other friends think of this too. If they think you'll be snakin' on their girls, that's bad and they probably wont even be up front with you about it.
 
Auron X said:
Bros before hoes amid!
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this and maybe if you're feeling really guilty twoards your friend come clean about it and help him get over it as well. If he's not really that close then no need imo just break it off with the girl hard.
 
Have sex with her and tell your friend HAHA BITCH!.. just kidding...

if i were you i would step back and look at the situation, is a he a close friend, is she just tryin to get laid.. (some woman are like that..)

ORRR is she playing you simply put it sounds like shes playin ya my friend
 
ends up we were right she was "confused" and amid lost both friends heh
 
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