Invite ettiquette?

I don't see why people get so twichy when you ask then the setup. Someone explain.
 
Invite etiquette? I used to just send invites with no tells whatsoever. I made lots of friends that way.

Now, just to inject some sarcasm and witty humor into that post and we are all set.
 
i invited this samurai yesterday and man, talk about crazy. she drilled me for an hour about who was in the party and required i give her detailed documentation about it's member makeup. including /tell's from all members for verification. and don't talk about when she got to camp finally. the rdm was an elvaan and she want ballistic. started chasing me around the Bay with her katana screamin "ALL MAGES SHOULD BE TARU'S DAMNIT!!!!!!"

i know never to invite her again. :wink:


ps: love ya Zy, lol. you finish off your 70?
 
I don't see why people get so twichy when you ask then the setup. Someone explain.
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They're scared you'll turn out to be this person:

Zaltana said:
i invited this samurai yesterday and man, talk about crazy. she drilled me for an hour about who was in the party and required i give her detailed documentation about it's member makeup. including /tell's from all members for verification. and don't talk about when she got to camp finally. the rdm was an elvaan and she want ballistic. started chasing me around the Bay with her katana screamin "ALL MAGES SHOULD BE TARU'S DAMNIT!!!!!!"

i know never to invite her again. :wink:
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Zaltana said:
i invited this samurai yesterday and man, talk about crazy. she drilled me for an hour about who was in the party and required i give her detailed documentation about it's member makeup. including /tell's from all members for verification. and don't talk about when she got to camp finally. the rdm was an elvaan and she want ballistic. started chasing me around the Bay with her katana screamin "ALL MAGES SHOULD BE TARU'S DAMNIT!!!!!!"

i know never to invite her again. :wink:


ps: love ya Zy, lol. you finish off your 70?
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:biggrin: Yep! Campaigned it last night. 70 yay! Thanks for the kickass party Z. I had fun.
 
Shaedia said:
... that grouchy people suck. who cares if you got invited into a tp burn party? gawd what are you afraid of.... having an interesting non-traditional party setup that might work or might not? wtf, why the hell are people are so afraid of dying... it's a game for cryin out loud... you can die and not really "die" so who cares?

i think, if you have a problem with people inviting you into such parties, suck it up and ask them, or.... grow a backbone and have some fun. i ALWAYS laugh when i die, no matter where, or why, or whatever. it's just a game... it's just a game.... it's just a game.... it's just a game.... we're supposed to play "games" to escape our shitty as reality and this sucky world, so why make the "game" sucky and shitty eh?
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Only I wasn't grouchy. I was nothing but polite. And I'm certainly not afraid to die, but while some people call wasted time or negative exp fun, I generally don't. That non-traditional setup was not new to me, as I said, I've been there done that before, unfortunately with not so good results and wasn't interested in reattempting it again with strangers. I don't think that's such an awful thing, nor do I think that says I make the "game sucky and shitty."
 
Zyndara said:
:biggrin: Yep! Campaigned it last night. 70 yay! Thanks for the kickass party Z. I had fun.
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you're welcome. i understand your position thats why i gave you the full roster when i saw you seeking. Ahk had a similar search comment yesterday. im glad you actually SC'd with me. gave hornless the opportunities to cap her elemental magic for her G5 fight, which i now have to coach her through. imma take her to see ruby quaduve so she can practice.
 
Zyndara said:
Only I wasn't grouchy. I was nothing but polite. And I'm certainly not afraid to die, but while some people call wasted time or negative exp fun, I generally don't. That non-traditional setup was not new to me, as I said, I've been there done that before, unfortunately with not so good results and wasn't interested in reattempting it again with strangers. I don't think that's such an awful thing, nor do I think that says I make the "game sucky and shitty."
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ya sorry i was a little exasperated after coming accross some dumb people. that wasn't really intended fo you, as much as a general idea. some people take this game way to seriously, and it bothers me. like the sam, mentioned above. sorry i'm sure i came off a little rash. lol. O.o
 
fuck that. if a pt setup is that pathetic, tell them they need to learn how to play and disband. I kick people out of my parties that suck, last pt I made (i wish i could /c gear before invite) I ended up with a nin that wore nin af pants and SH at 75. I literally told him and this is no lie... "i'm sorry you're pooping up my party, I've found you're replacement."
then I said "Go do ODS or something make some gil and buy some gear" If you suck or your party sucks, its not my problem and I really don't have to deal with it. Usually I'm not that drastic... but if you are 75 wearing the worst pieces of AF or don't know how to make a pt.. GTFO or I will!!!

Although in reply to my negativity....
LOL I did accept a 4 sam 1 rdm pt the other day, and decided to go nin/dnc.. I back up healed and had a blast the whole time. so, yeah sometimes it is cool but I still wish i could /c gear from /sea.
 
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Olrox said:
fuck that. if a pt setup is that pathetic, tell them they need to learn how to play and disband. I kick people out of my parties that suck, last pt I made (i wish i could /c gear before invite) I ended up with a nin that wore nin af pants and SH at 75.
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To be honest, there's far worse he could of wore.
 
I've had someone decline a pt invite b/c we didn't have a PL even though we had a RDM and WHM. >.>
 
I've been RDM and gotten a party invite, once agreeing otw I then get 'oh can you sub whm cause we have no main healer'

I'd say its a good idea to find as much about what your role in the party will be before getting there. Especally at later levels where it takes hours to gain a bit of solid exp, we cant be fooling about with peoples time really.
 
Shadowboy said:
I've had someone decline a pt invite b/c we didn't have a PL even though we had a RDM and WHM. >.>
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That's a sad state when we have people at low levels declining parties because of no PL. Obviously those people have relied too much and have no grasp of how this game is played.
 
Pickups generally blow. I think it's the leader's responsibility to tell the levels/jobs of the party when they invite you, though.
 
I PM'd but going to try messaging here(gotta wait the whole "approve" thing).

Hi there Zynd~ as I mentioned the other day in PM, cannons can be made with almost anything.

Though I am curious! What were the Drk subbing? You just said DRK, DRK, SAM/WAR. Now if the Drk were /war, I agree 100% with you fleeing. But a few days ago our PLD DC"d and I offered to tank. I mean, I had the mob facing me 80% of the time anyhow, why not? So we tried it. That was the last time I've looked for a tank. Now we do DRK, BRD, SAM, SCH, and two random DD who are either drg or sam and sub war(or sam) or sub nin.We get chain10ish(nothing to write home about, but great at 70-72) and it's tons of fun. It eliminates the "beat stuff, occasionally ws macro, next.. repeat" and adds a bit of excitement and keeps the melee on their toes.

Plus, while I saw a nin yesterday doing some absolutely insane Jins, average tanks can't keep up in damage to kill things as fast. Especially if you are lucky enough to have a rng, drg, and sam(with polearm) on birds/puks. Will I turn down a pt with a pld or nin? Never. Will I prefer /nin /seigan smashing things? You bet!

Best of luck darlin~
 
Zyndara said:
I had something happen to me this afternoon and I am just wondering what the consensus is on party inviting courtesy. Specifically, the question I have is, if you are a nontraditional-cannon job (if you are not nin, war or mnk), is it not reasonable to assume when someone invites you to party that the party will have a tank and a healer?

The situation I came across is I was invited, I accepted the invite, warped, ported out to party only to realize that there was no tank. The party range was 69-70 if I recall correctly, and setup was drk drk sam/war sam/war rdm brd. In my experience, that type of party doesn't work well at this level without a whm or everyone /nin (especially in a place like the mire w/ amnesia and deafening tantra). I mentioned that I would likely have not accepted the invite had I known it would be a "tp party," and I sent a tell to the leader asking for him to replace me or offering to find a replacement for myself. I also said I would stay until a replacement came. When I was told I could go, I said take care and disbanded, and sent a follow up tell to the leader to thank him anyway for the invite, saying that type of party just wasn't my cup of tea at this level. The leader essentially was kind of angry about it, and told me it was my responsibility to ask the party setup when invited and that he'd "know not to invite me again."

I guess I need to be more diligent about checking jobs in the party before I accept, and that's probably my bad for assuming instead of making sure, but I guess I'm just looking for some input from others on what is considered the normal accepted behavior for invites so I don't piss anyone off in the future or waste my or anyone else's time. It just seemed like a communication problem to me. If you're inviting someone other than a nin, war, or mnk and intend for it to be a "tp party," isn't that something you should mention to the people you invite up front, especially if they are /war and not /nin? Or do people prefer it for the person being invited to inquire ahead of time about the setup every time? I just genuinely want to know so I can avoid this problem in the future.
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Unless it's someone I know, I'll always be asking what the party setup is at that level range and lower. I hate accepting an invite only to find out that it turns out to be a crappy setup which ends up wasting my time.

You did nothing wrong by leaving the party, infact you're more polite than other people I've seen when they want to leave a party. Oh and any decent leader who sets up a party would tell the person they are inviting what the setup of the party is.
 
if I am not offered the party setup info I usually ask, because like you, I don't want to waste my time in a sucky party
 
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