Let's talk about rules for a moment

Mirewen said:
I'm more into the psychological bloody stuff.

It's funny, every area I do clinicals in is the area I want to work in. When I was doing OB I wanted to be L&D, spending three days with a wound specialist made me want to be a treatment nurse. I love wounds! I know I don't want to work with c.diff patients. That shit smells like two skunks dipped in raw sewage wrapped in rotten meat.
 
Kinkkerbelle said:
I am going to have to explain now. I'm offically a senior. Guess what I'm taking my last semester? Psycological nursing. Our assignment over spring break was to create and conduct a social experiment. Sorry to make you the star of my experiment, RoM, but I felt like you could take a little heat without being harmed, I hope that you don't mind too much that I did everything I could to bait you. Honestly you seemed to be enjoying yourself, and I appreciated your ending comment quoted above, that shows that as ferocious as you are, you still have it in you to be the bigger man. I wish I could integrate it into my project somehow, I'll figure something out.

The first thing I noticed about the Cross Thread is that RoM was a strong advocate for his position, with a strong personality and was very aggressive. He also had a posse of sorts that pretty much echoed his every post, and went en masse on attack of anyone who disagreed with him.

I was going to base my experiment on that thread, when I had the good luck that he started another thread that I could actually participate in. The amazing thing is that most of RoM's "posse" were friends or at least aquaintences of mine. I decided to see how they would react to dealing with two strong personalites in a death match flame war. The experiment wasn't about RoM but about how mutual friends would react to the animosity between RoM and I.

Some results, but I still have tons of information to sort through.

Only one person realized that I was acting out of my normal character--Trippyhippy. I'm a do unto others type person who wouldn't normally wouldn't flame someone unless it was in defense of another person I felt was being mistreated. Even though most people on here know my motto is make love not war, they still didn't find it unusual that I had turned from my sweet flirty self to an illogical screeching banshee.

Shyrra who I consider a friend was sort of on the fence. He didn't want to offend either side.

Meeze, surprisingly igorned a zillion opportunites to jump in and call everyone every name in the book, chose not to get involved and actually made an attempt to create peace. Your rep is ruined meeze.

Bigboy was a surprise and an unknown entity. I know he posted in support of RoM in the other thread, but he didn't know me personally. It was interesting to see his response to me. I need more time on this one.

Bedwarmer, I actually didn't plan for you to be involved in this at all, but your posts, even though they disagreed with me, were gentle and logical in their nature. I didn't like the reference to black people, however, but I'm not supposed to judge but interperate the information based on logic.

Lots of people tried to derail the thread in order to shut things down. I know you might see this as a huge derail but RoM had multiple chances to state his point of view in progressively simple terms. I think everyone on the board got his message, even if they are dumber than dirt.

Westyle I know this little run was hard on you, will you ever forgive me? You attempted to derail the threads valiantly, but never posted in support of me. I have some questions for you that are gonna make you squirm, but you know I like making you squirm :biggrin:

Alyada was a huge surprise. I've never broken a rule on qcdn and he/she? seemed to overreact a bit. He seemed to allow personal feelings be involved in his response to me breaking a rule. Someone in an authority position flaming me unprovoked ( or perhaps I should use the word underprovoked, as I did break a rule)was an interesting respone to me posting in the WoW forum. This caused loyalty to RoM to be reinforced and tilted more people into joining in on roasting me alive. (not that I didn't deserve it.. LOL)

All in all it was fun, but exhausting. I don't see how people do this all the time, I didn't realize that flame wars required so much mental energy.

I will post more responses as I sort through data and collect statistics.
There's treachery afoot! .... but squirming sounds fun, my ribs are sensitive to tickling
 
I feel so used.

Truth be told, as i mentioned more then a few times. You of all people busting in looking to crack heads kind of set me back. Hence i stopped reading after a certain point as like i said i had deemed you mostly harmless and was more than content to let you fizzle out early, but you kept at me knowing full damn well it'd most likely be a 1 strike rule.

Bravo, i hope the project goes well and i'm glad you understand where i'm at on here. It's all smoke and mirrors, were you to meet me irl or in game most people couldn't fathom i'm the person i am here without having an in-depth disagreement with me. Not that i go bashing and stretching for every insult i can irl, you'd be amazed what being within striking distance can do for your demeanor during a conversation. I think trip said something about it way earlier on in one of the threads.. i lost count of where who said what is.

The most entertaining thing? I've said more than a few times that posting on the FB is an exercise in manipulation. You played me like a fiddle, i can respect the hell out of that.
 
The whole testing logic thing is really intriguing Kink, this was a really interesting read. Thanks ^^;

Edit: I'll have to concur with RoM.. You played me like a fiddle as well. /loss
 
Kinkkerbelle said:
It's funny, every area I do clinicals in is the area I want to work in. When I was doing OB I wanted to be L&D, spending three days with a wound specialist made me want to be a treatment nurse. I love wounds! I know I don't want to work with c.diff patients. That shit smells like two skunks dipped in raw sewage wrapped in rotten meat.

I had fun playing with Psychiatric patients more than anything. I'm not the kind of person that likes to get my hands dirty.
 
I can be eloquent, well spoken, lucid and civilized with the best of em. This was afterall the FB, and entertainment value is what people want the most out of their reads. Sometimes I'll go off on a Mokk'ish tirade, but sometimes it's better to take a 1/2 Mokk approach and wrap it up 2 paragraphs short with a horribly offensive remark. Think the lovechild of Peregrine and Sneakypants. Afterall, the mob is fickle brother.

Westyles combo breaker > this whole thread(s) though.
 
I don't do anything halfway. Balls to the walls or nothing at all.

Dig the gladiator line.

Hey kink while your at it take a crack at tom, i'm sure that'll be a ripping good read.
 
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personally I thought kink had snapped a bit and took this thread as seriously as Mokk did. I thought it was a bit sad, I thought it was within your range of motions to do so but I didnt think you would have a talent as a manipulator.

I only made one post to see what Mokk wanted afterwards I could have asked a question Mokk and yourself already knew the answer to but it seemed really a waste of energy
 
RoM said:
Obviously not as i have full staff support to my knowledge. As it's their call it really doesn't matter what you or i think about the right and wrong of it.

Assuming that this is actually true, and you do indeed have full staff support, then it would be a trivial matter for the staff in question to change the posting rules you yourself quoted at the beginning of this thread. They haven't, and as such, off-topic posting is still prohibited in the Flameboard and General Discussion.

Actually a calm and collectively put together series of questions and conversations about it worked well enough. If the community at large could manage the same ammount of restraint and respect whereas issues like this are concerned with the staff i'm sure the 'bitch loud enough until your heard' days of QCDN would be nothing more than fond memories. Can't have all that civility and respect running around for authority figures tho, amirite?

Sadly, the majority of the mods have proven to be... less than impartial, less than consistent, and entirely too prone to do what they want rather than what they're supposed to do. As you pointed out in the OP, consistency in particular is severely lacking.

When you take it all together, it's not overly surprising that a lot of people treat the mods poorly.

I'm not saying it's right, or a good way to go about getting results, just that it's not surprising.


Yea, cos no one responded and was interested in the topic, right? Completely off base on this one, it was a good attempt tho. The threads, their placement, and the responses contained therein speak for themselves.

People responding to a flameboard thread is hardly news. You could post just about anything here and it'll grow to 10 pages if it's even remotely interesting, and the mud being slung in this topic would pull people in regardless of what it was about.

As for my point, notice what you said a bit further down in your post. If it were a constructive post, properly located, you wouldn't have the audience you desire.

The irony is that what you're looking to accomplish doesn't require an audience, it requires a change in the rules and active enforcement of them once those changes are made. You could have posted a simple set of suggestions, gotten the mods involved in a public forum, hammered out a new set of rules by group consensus and then had one of the mods post a sticky topic detailing the new rules for everyone to see, read, and understand, and then promptly start harassing those people who choose not to.


If there's one thing i've never wanted for around here it's an audience, surely you knew that already.

Not so much.



Rappa, Me, Alyada, and i along with a countless number of you no doubt have the right idea about how things should proceed given this set of events. The problem is everybody's too concentrated on bitching and moaning and complaining to do something proactively.

Countless numbers are difficult on board with a few hundred truly active posters is a touch of hyperbole I think, but aside from that, you apparently missed my point.

You want the rules changed, arrange to change the rules. Don't ask for an interpretation of rules that are slightly vague in isolation (in-game occurences) though completely clear in context (in-game occurences in FFXI, on this server).

I agree that having multiple flameboards would be a trifle silly. But we have to address the issue that if we allow WoW flames, for example, we then have to allow flames for other games that any significant fraction of the server plays.

The idea of expanding the focus of the board has both merits and pitfalls. The upside is potentially an expansion of the community aspect of the board, building further relationships between the people that choose to post here. The downside is that too diffuse a focus leads to a poor "signal-to-noise" ratio. Yes, we can allow posting on any game in area x, but then it can be challenging to find the posts you actually want to read. If we allow posting in area x, why not area y and z?

A precisely worded set of rules, agreed upon by more than just a few people in a position of limited power, debated in a public forum, and ultimately set into place with provisions for changing them at a later date would be more useful than trying to ram changes down the collective throat of the group of people to whom those rules will apply.
 
I wondered when/if you'd be back.

Raesvelg said:
Assuming that this is actually true, and you do indeed have full staff support, then it would be a trivial matter for the staff in question to change the posting rules you yourself quoted at the beginning of this thread. They haven't, and as such, off-topic posting is still prohibited in the Flameboard and General Discussion.

Mostly an assumption on my part seeing as how i wasen't immediately modded into last week. Fortunately the original thread that sparked this BS for many people falls entirely within the rules of the FB as no explicit game is mentioned in those rules only implied. Furthermore the OP of the cross-community flame states very clearly that it's a noticable trend in all MMOs and i was looking for comparable stories people had to related. I based my post on my most recent lack of conquest in WoW because it brought all those old feelings back.

I even went so far as to say i haden't experienced half the level of problems with the subject material on FFXI as WoW, paying the game and it's community a compliment. But no one bothered with that.

Sadly, the majority of the mods have proven to be... less than impartial, less than consistent, and entirely too prone to do what they want rather than what they're supposed to do. As you pointed out in the OP, consistency in particular is severely lacking.

When you take it all together, it's not overly surprising that a lot of people treat the mods poorly.

I'm not saying it's right, or a good way to go about getting results, just that it's not surprising.

Completely agreed. Now try not to laugh but in all honesty, IMO, it's a really stupid way to go about things. Especially if you happen to give a shit enough to rattle someone's cage about something from thread to thread, post to post. A well thought out PM handles alot in the way of ego-flexing over crap around here whereas the rules are concerned.

People responding to a flameboard thread is hardly news. You could post just about anything here and it'll grow to 10 pages if it's even remotely interesting, and the mud being slung in this topic would pull people in regardless of what it was about.

What i find noteworthy is that my shitty little thread on a tirade about .. whatever topic always wins out over mod/admin threads geared towards brainstorming solutions to whatever problems plague QCDN. It's always the same handful of people who generally have something to contribute. Meanwhile whenever some shit goes down the in thing to do for those who could not be bothered to contribute or exercise the open door policy with mods and PMs is hassle the mods and admin until your crying and whinning either slips in to the void of forgotten posts or the issue arisses again.

As for my point, notice what you said a bit further down in your post. If it were a constructive post, properly located, you wouldn't have the audience you desire.

I wasen't out to be constructive. I do that on my own time. I bitch and whine and moan on yours. ;)

The irony is that what you're looking to accomplish doesn't require an audience, it requires a change in the rules and active enforcement of them once those changes are made. You could have posted a simple set of suggestions, gotten the mods involved in a public forum, hammered out a new set of rules by group consensus and then had one of the mods post a sticky topic detailing the new rules for everyone to see, read, and understand, and then promptly start harassing those people who choose not to.

Again i could have, if that ever worked. Seriously, you've been here as long as i have give or take, you tell me that happens at all ... ever.

Not so much.

It may not always be the best audience. It may not always be the audience i was looking for. But there's always been an audience. My only threads that go absolutely nowhere are things that take my fancy which fall in to the lounge or reality sinks in but are lost to the rest of the board, i can live with those swings and misses.

Countless numbers are difficult on board with a few hundred truly active posters is a touch of hyperbole I think, but aside from that, you apparently missed my point.

No i got it, i just simply went somewhere else based on what you said.

You want the rules changed, arrange to change the rules. Don't ask for an interpretation of rules that are slightly vague in isolation (in-game occurences) though completely clear in context (in-game occurences in FFXI, on this server).

I don't want the rules changed, perse. I want them read and comprehended by people who feel the need to heckle me endlessly when they have no comprehension of the language of the rules. Furthermore i want at least some validity assigned to the fact that i went through the proper channels to end up not only where i was but where i knew i would be based on the post.

I agree that having multiple flameboards would be a trifle silly. But we have to address the issue that if we allow WoW flames, for example, we then have to allow flames for other games that any significant fraction of the server plays.

What's so wrong with that? If there's a sizable portion of the community that takes interest in something and feels the need to opine on it, why not? That is, afterall, how we got the WoW, Wii, and other rpg boards.

What i mean to say is that, at least in the case of the FB, if we have a board for it (WoW, other RPGS, even the wii) and you feel the need to go on a tirade and possibly piss people off where better to post it?

When presented with this question the response i recieved from the highest mod on the totem pole in the eyes of most of us was 'yea, that's FB material all right' to paraphrase.

The idea of expanding the focus of the board has both merits and pitfalls. The upside is potentially an expansion of the community aspect of the board, building further relationships between the people that choose to post here. The downside is that too diffuse a focus leads to a poor "signal-to-noise" ratio. Yes, we can allow posting on any game in area x, but then it can be challenging to find the posts you actually want to read. If we allow posting in area x, why not area y and z?

I'm not out to bring people who are completely alien to the server/game in to QCDN. That would indeed be and insane postulation. However i believe if you've had time in XI and on quetz no matter where you wind up the community still sees you as a active member if that is indeed what you are around here. Which i have been barring my couple month temper tantrum about the QCNN thing, which is another matter and topic entirely but fortunately for us also a compeltely resolved issue.

A precisely worded set of rules, agreed upon by more than just a few people in a position of limited power, debated in a public forum, and ultimately set into place with provisions for changing them at a later date would be more useful than trying to ram changes down the collective throat of the group of people to whom those rules will apply.

Oddly enough i sent almost this exact same quote to Sculli after what most of refer to as the 'care-bear act of QCDN.' It was ill-concieved and implimented horribly after the illusion of an open debate was presented only to placate the masses in to what was ultimately some shit that was going down regardless of the community's opinions of it.

See you took everything like it was supposed to be taken in a roundabout kinda way. I applaud that, not that i expected different from you. I agree wholeheartedly but again the problem is the history of QCDN whereas your suggestion comes in. Topics of that nature collect dust and tumbleweeds save for a handful of people who you can count on to add constructively to the conversation.

It's only cool to talk about rules when there's a personal involvement or someone pisses you off and at that point the preffered venue always seems to be a public one with as much immaturity as can be mustered. This, in my humble opinion, is ass backwards of how a 'community' acts.
 
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Kinkkerbelle said:
Bigboy was a surprise and an unknown entity. I know he posted in support of RoM in the other thread, but he didn't know me personally. It was interesting to see his response to me. I need more time on this one.

In case you're curious I know Rom about as well as I know you. I've had more interraction with him on the boards though, although never in game.
 
Bigboy said:
In case you're curious I know Rom about as well as I know you. I've had more interraction with him on the boards though, although never in game.

That's cause he plays wow now.

I don't know if you guys know or not, but yeah.

Hhe plays wow.

now.































RoM plays WoW. I think.
 
Trippyhippy said:
That's cause he plays wow now.

I don't know if you guys know or not, but yeah.

Hhe plays wow.

now.

RoM plays WoW. I think.

lol I know, I meant I never had met him even when he did. I play both games, but have had more WoW lately just because it is easier to get more done in shorter periods of time. The rested xp is really nice too since it can be days between the chances I get to play.

btw, are you.... drunk? There was just alot of space and some typos you usually wouldn't have left alone. I'm just curious is all, since you normally are more.... eliquent.
 
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RoM said:
I feel so used.

Truth be told, as i mentioned more then a few times. You of all people busting in looking to crack heads kind of set me back. Hence i stopped reading after a certain point as like i said i had deemed you mostly harmless and was more than content to let you fizzle out early, but you kept at me knowing full damn well it'd most likely be a 1 strike rule.

Bravo, i hope the project goes well and i'm glad you understand where i'm at on here. It's all smoke and mirrors, were you to meet me irl or in game most people couldn't fathom i'm the person i am here without having an in-depth disagreement with me. Not that i go bashing and stretching for every insult i can irl, you'd be amazed what being within striking distance can do for your demeanor during a conversation. I think trip said something about it way earlier on in one of the threads.. i lost count of where who said what is.

The most entertaining thing? I've said more than a few times that posting on the FB is an exercise in manipulation. You played me like a fiddle, i can respect the hell out of that.

Yeah I knew when you stopped playing ball I was gonna have to come out hard and fast to draw you back in. I hope the post that did that didn't sound too desperate for punishment. I am a masochist you know. I was really surprised at how mentally exhausting a flame war can be, LOL.

LOL you were actually nicer than you had to be many times when I laid hole after hole for you to go for.
 
Khidir said:
personally I thought kink had snapped a bit and took this thread as seriously as Mokk did. I thought it was a bit sad, I thought it was within your range of motions to do so but I didnt think you would have a talent as a manipulator.

I only made one post to see what Mokk wanted afterwards I could have asked a question Mokk and yourself already knew the answer to but it seemed really a waste of energy

What most people on here have forgotten since it's been so long since I talked about it is that I used to be a fetish model then a professional Dominatrix (retired with a nice nest egg at the age of 29) Manipulating men used to be my bread and butter.
 
Kinkkerbelle said:
What most people on here have forgotten since it's been so long since I talked about it is that I used to be a fetish model then a professional Dominatrix (retired with a nice nest egg at the age of 29) Manipulating men used to be my bread and butter.

I don't think anyone forgot about this. <_<
 
Kinkkerbelle said:
Only one person realized that I was acting out of my normal character--Trippyhippy. I'm a do unto others type person who wouldn't normally wouldn't flame someone unless it was in defense of another person I felt was being mistreated. Even though most people on here know my motto is make love not war, they still didn't find it unusual that I had turned from my sweet flirty self to an illogical screeching banshee.


Wow. Interesting....Kind of.
I just thought you were having a bitch fit. I did find it out of the ordinary, but chose not to say anything to you. Mostly because I steer clear of bitch fits. There were probably other people that "realized you were acting out of normal character" but didn't want to get involved since you weren't attacking them.
 
This got moved.. for.. I don't even know. I moved it back because obviously the topic ain't done.
 
It was a bit curious how someone could miss things when they're put right in your face. And then spout some incoherent response.
 
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