Thanks for the good advice which I am going to follow.
I would like, however, to illustrate my point. About 5:00 am I got a party invite while soloing in kornstarch highlands and I figured it would be mostly jp so I took the invite. The party leader was named turdy, which made me a bit hesitant.
After he fills the party, and I end up pulling, I pull a few mobs which the ninja never vokes off of me. He won't even voke when I'm getting my ass kicked. Ok this is a NINJA who has supposedly gotten to 30 and learned at least a little about the game. Then I realize that he hasn't casted utsesumi once. As realization dawns on me I feel dread in my heart.
"Do you have ninja tools" I inquired. Alas, he did not. And he CREATED the party with the strongest player a taru mnk, not five minutes before. Okay so I figured I would be nice for a change and help the poor guy out.
I roust Firebrand from reading porn and ask him to go to AH in Whitegate, pick up ninja tools and a scroll of barwatera for the whm and bring them out to the dunes. He says yes and we pick up a six player an excellent learning thf named..... Elt... somthing.
We pull T's and VT's and I tank, all the while, Turdy is complaining about the low xp. By this time I wanted to wring his neck so badly. Fire arrives with ninja tools and the thf starts pulling some stronger mobs and we find out that the guy doesn't know how to USE ninja tools and we would have to tell him to cast before the pull and voke the mob off the puller and voke it back of me when I take hate so he can recast.
I finally got sick of it and went to bed. The dunes drains the life right out of you.