My mom got arrested this morning.

[JP]

For those of you in a close-knit family, cherish it! Not all of us are that fortunate to share the joy of having a family that cares and supports you.

I completely agree with this. My family is close, but my mother and my father are both alcoholics. They fuss like every other night and sometimes it gets bad. My father is usually not in the wrong in these arguments, but my mom gets terrible. Including threats and sometimes she pulls a weapon on him. This only happens like once every 5 or 6 months. Other than that, things are usually fine.

But your situation sucks Danny. Hope it gets better.

 

[Stevedizzle]

I completely agree with this. My family is close, but my mother and my father are both alcoholics. They fuss like every other night and sometimes it gets bad. My father is usually not in the wrong in these arguments, but my mom gets terrible. Including threats and sometimes she pulls a weapon on him. This only happens like once every 5 or 6 months. Other than that, things are usually fine.

But your situation sucks Danny. Hope it gets better.

Thanks, man.

 

[Firestreak]

A question regarding your father:

Would you say he lacks the ability to feel basic levels of joy and in general seeks to makes others around him miserable?

 

[Stevedizzle]

A question regarding your father:

Would you say he lacks the ability to feel basic levels of joy and in general seeks to makes others around him miserable?

You got it, bud.

 

[Novolo]

Your mom really did that.. wow..... just for that i would pull the your no longer aloud to see my kid card :|

 

[Tomasello]

I left nothing out. I am telling you all how it is; now whether you believe me or not is a different story in it's own. My mom is on a lot of pain meds (Not sure which ones) and gets depos from time to time. That might be the case, might not be. Dad has blocked my car in while I am in the store sometimes and tries to follow me home. :shrug:

I believe you... Your story seems sincere and my mother-in-law is a total fucking wack job and has pulled similar shit with her family so I find this story very plausible. Good luck.

 

[Firestreak]

Would you say any of these describe him?

1. Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. [Not including suicidal or self-injuring behavior covered in Criterion 5]
2. A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation.
3. Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self.
4. Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., promiscuous sex, eating disorders, binge eating, substance abuse, reckless driving). [Again, not including suicidal or self-injuring behavior covered in Criterion 5]
5. Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, threats or self-injuring behavior such as cutting, interfering with the healing of scars (excoriation) or picking at oneself.
6. Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).
7. Chronic feelings of emptiness, worthlessness.
8. Inappropriate anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights).
9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation, delusions or severe dissociative symptoms

 

[Airou]

Would you say any of these describe him?

1. Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. [Not including suicidal or self-injuring behavior covered in Criterion 5]
2. A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation.
3. Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self.
4. Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., promiscuous sex, eating disorders, binge eating, substance abuse, reckless driving). [Again, not including suicidal or self-injuring behavior covered in Criterion 5]
5. Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, threats or self-injuring behavior such as cutting, interfering with the healing of scars (excoriation) or picking at oneself.
6. Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).
7. Chronic feelings of emptiness, worthlessness.
8. Inappropriate anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights).
9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation, delusions or severe dissociative symptoms

The thread is about his mother and what happened with them as far as her going to jail, lets not play psychologist now :nono:

 

[Firestreak]

Typically speaking, intentionally sabotaging your own children is a rather obvious red flag of some sort of mental problem. While it's true that some people are just "jerks," how someone treats their offspring is different, based on millions of years of evolution and all that comes with it.

Now, I'm not attempting to recommend any course of actions as a result of what that might be, but it's helpful to understand for those affected. Also, for all I know the OP isn't telling the whole story, or omitting some background story that may be highly relevant. I don't know. I'm just saying what I see on the surface.

His mother shows little regard for "right and wrong," appears to be completely self centered. She seems to feel a connection to a baby or young child. This base information hints at something.

The father is unsupportive, is unable to feel joy, seeks to disrupt joy in others around him. This hints at something else. I wouldn't go into diagnostic mode if the flags weren't already raised. Confirming what the problems might be is generally healthy for all people involved, especially family who might struggle with trying to explain their actions and may have self esteem issues wrapped up with that.

To get anything solid they'd need to see a professional in the right setting of course, this is just chatter on an internet message board. Though with the law involved as it is now, that may be an inevitability for your mother at least.

 

[Mirewen]

Just be glad that you're sane. Coming from a home where your parents are destructive could have had a profound impact on your mental wellbeing. (Don't know you, hope it didn't).

Getting out of their house and having another family to lean on (your wifes) is a great thing, but obviously your parents are jealous. I wouldn't let my mother near my child if she acted like that and what she did is proof of her instability so she cannot sue you for visitation. She is an at risk person.

Don't feel bad, no matter what your family tries to tell you.

Geez, I felt bad because (even just yesterday while visiting my family - I moved about 4 hours away last summer) I was asked to move home by every member of my immediate family because they "miss me too much". Seems your parents miss you... but in a controlling way, not in a nurturing way.

 

[Stevedizzle]

Typically speaking, intentionally sabotaging your own children is a rather obvious red flag of some sort of mental problem. While it's true that some people are just "jerks," how someone treats their offspring is different, based on millions of years of evolution and all that comes with it.

Now, I'm not attempting to recommend any course of actions as a result of what that might be, but it's helpful to understand for those affected. Also, for all I know the OP isn't telling the whole story, or omitting some background story that may be highly relevant. I don't know. I'm just saying what I see on the surface.

His mother shows little regard for "right and wrong," appears to be completely self centered. She seems to feel a connection to a baby or young child. This base information hints at something.

The father is unsupportive, is unable to feel joy, seeks to disrupt joy in others around him. This hints at something else. I wouldn't go into diagnostic mode if the flags weren't already raised. Confirming what the problems might be is generally healthy for all people involved, especially family who might struggle with trying to explain their actions and may have self esteem issues wrapped up with that.

To get anything solid they'd need to see a professional in the right setting of course, this is just chatter on an internet message board. Though with the law involved as it is now, that may be an inevitability for your mother at least.

Amen.