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Jezza

Jezza

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suck.

UGH...why does it seem that everyone is going through some sort of drama right now? I've been peering around every corner I can find...searching for someone that was in a calm enough spot, and open-minded enough, to chat at about the bullshit I've been wading though and NOOOOO...EVERYONE is in crisis.

I hate Fridays

I hate people

BAH
 
Ha. Tell me about it. Three of my friends are fighting, two broke up with their...one broke up with his girlfriend and the other broke up with her boyfriend, and they're both upset about it, then another one of my friend's dad just died...this is the week from hell.

You can chat with me, Jezz :wink: .
 
my love and I seem to be fine O.o
 
Jezza, send me a tell in game once in a while. I dishonor malekind, I listen well ^_^.
 
Relationships? Where? *Looks under rocks, pillows and such* I don't see any relationships here...


(i.e. send Yomiku a tell for random bitching XD)
 
Thanks Songi, Lecan, Yomi....

Sigh.

Unfortunately, said person in said relationship hooked up a spiffy new receiver/speaker system in my house a couple of months ago...and I can't for the life of me figure out how to plug my ps2 into this damn system. I can't seem to get him to come over (out of his comfort zone - long story) to help me out so it seems I may be stuck for awhile. Need to get on the phone with the coupld audiophiles I know and make em pay up favors.

May happen later today tho - considering the plans I'd tried to make to fix this whole fiasco seem to have fallen through a proverbial floor.
 
You can tell me stuff if you wanna bitch :P I have no one to bitch to @_@
 
Lol man everytime I read something about this I laugh. I am in a very sad state right now. I am currently back in California after a long move outside. I have 0 friends around here...no joke! I talk to a few people in classes, but nobody on campus or outside. I would so much prefer to be fighting or whatever with someone than what im doing now. Sucks...

Faedryth
 
1. Someone tried to contact me and I lost the name. Damn you yahell.

2. It's just more than fighting....it's like....if I were outside looking in on this situation I'd probably beat me up for being a bobble-headed female with a savior complex and it has me treading water...

3. BLAH. I hate happy people even worse than regular people




--well at least today I do
 
Jezza get out now before it's too late. You can't save or help someone who doesn't want to help themselves. Especially if they don't think they're doin' anything wrong, and you are the one to them who has the issues.

Do it before it's too late and you're stuck for 16 years ...
 
ungghh...that's exactly the problem. Said human DOES want to change, does want to work on his schtuff..but has multiple barriers - some his fault, some not. The one's that ARE his fault are mistakes from 5+ years ago. I can honestly say that to picture him doing the shit he did then is nearly impossible. It seems very out of character from the person I know now.

However.

Said issues and trauma have had an impact on him, as it would anyone. I think - to a higher degree than even he is aware - yet. He has commented on things like, "One of the things I love about you are your annoying attempts to make me a better man."

MMk..and there's a LOT more to this story but I'm trying to protect his privacy - not so much mine - hehe...I'm an open book. Well on here, I don't think I've "come out" as into the "scene" ANYWHERE else...

but I digress

It's just sooo up and down. Right now? It's back up because Saturday night and sunday morning he really impressed me. But Saturday afternoon I was ready to put on my ambivalence life-saver and go for a swim.

And I did spend 10 years with an egotistical pretty boy who was a cop and had the mentality, maturity, and intellect that seems to go with that job...and being a has-been high school sports star. He could bench press me 6 ways from Sunday...unfortunately the only thing his brain was good for was finding new and interesting ways of making me feel crazy, insecure, ugly, and blah blah blah...so I got out. I won't do that again, no worries ;)

Okay..being wayyyyyyyyyyyyy to intimate here.

Runs over there ~~~~~~~>
 
I'm sorry, in my personal experiances, allbeit 21 years, people do not change. My ex-gf was a ditz and a liar, and she stayed a ditz and a liar. My friend kept getting mentaly and physicaly abused by her bf for over a year, after he claimed he was changing, and he didnt stop.

Plain and simple, people dont change. I dont know what the sittuation is exactly, but people are people, dont matter what race or religion. He/she will not change, and nothing will get better in the long run. I mean acting nice to you for a week is not changing in my eyes!!
 
You also run the risk of being this guys lifesupport for the rest of his natural life. I've left someone in my past to their own devices after trying to help them get through their shit for ~2 years. One day I realized that I was the only reason this person was getting any better. This individual was doing nothing for themselves when you get down to brass and I was putting myself through two people's worth of work. It was like having a split personality.

Just... be careful Jezza. =\
 
Vlishgnath said:
You also run the risk of being this guys lifesupport for the rest of his natural life. I've left someone in my past to their own devices after trying to help them get through their shit for ~2 years. One day I realized that I was the only reason this person was getting any better. This individual was doing nothing for themselves when you get down to brass and I was putting myself through two people's worth of work. It was like having a split personality.

Just... be careful Jezza. =\
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I couldn't have said that better myself. Been there, doin' that. Jezza, don't turn into me. I won't go into the details. I refuse to talk about this part of my sucky life (not that it always sucks). Just ... don't turn into me.
 
Heh..that's the thing. I know people don't change.

I kinda decided to give it 6 months. If he is what he says he is...then that will be enough time to prove it. Walk the walk...if he can't pull it together..

The goddess will leave the building.

Promise.
 
Shits' happening all this week to everyone bad shit just seems to get worse...seems that once the shit hits the fan no one cares to turn the fan off...what i mean is that things are only gettin worse and can only get better if you speak with your friends and family, nothing gets better if you keep it bottled up inside yourself, that only makes things worse allows for self-destruction and the feelings of those who DO care for you being b/f friend and family, no one wants to see you hurt and if they do, they can do rot in a corner...as Kat said, (not that i'm tryin to offend you) but dont turn into a person you wont like and a person that you wont want to be, you end up losing your people close to you... ; ; if you do need to talk to someone Jezz, /tell me of PM me, I'm open to listen and like to actually :shock: ttyl and good luck
 
this is why i dont HAVE any friends, so i dont have to hear them complain or pretend that i care.


go me!
 
I guess Jezza youre a much better person than I. Once I'm crossed, and I dont mean as a joke, or someone messing around, but the serious type, like you have been it seems. I dont really forgive the person. In my opinion 6 months is very long and very linient<sp?>. But hey, thats me.

And yes V, I think we have all been there at one time or another.
 
Jez, I agree. I had more crap happen this past week. ><
Most of it is just stuff people deal with, but I also had a friend murdered...Shot in the heart and stabbed in the face.

So this time, I'll be dramatic and not feel bad about shutting everything else out. Cannot believe the crap that happened last week. When it rains, it pours.
 
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