The Help Kelyon Thread because he needs his own thread.

no advice here keylon, just wanted to say that i hope for the best for you regardless of what you do; I think something a mother once told me is that you have to realize that part of the parents' dreams for future children is gone and they take it pretty hard realizing that they wont have more in the bloodline.

again, i hope you find your inner peace
 
You do what you gotta do. I'm surprised, like Uzor, that your father is the one taking it so well, more power to him. (If I ever turned gay, I'm pretty sure my father would flip out)

It's awesome to see your being true to yourself and standing up for what you feel. Your mother will come around in time, she just needs some time to accept it for herself. (and again, props for dad) Looks like you got some good support behind you, so I'm sure everything will turn out for the best. ^^
 
Live the life you love, and love the life you live. Don't let anyone (even family) get in the way of that.

Good luck.
 
Explain to her the difference:

 
Yeah, that one thing really pissed me off. When i told her she keep saying im not feminine at all, which i know. There is a HUGH difference from being gay, and then a FAG. I hate FAGS they are obnoxious and attention seeking.
 
I'd come out, but due to religious beliefs, my family would utterly disown me and probably throw me out, just because they believe homosexuality is wrong, and that they'll burn and whatnot. I've been told to my face that if I ever "decided" to be gay, that I'd be disowned. At least you have it easier than I would. Relish in the fact that you're accepted by someone. :/
 
I don't know you from anywhere other than the boards, but i feel i can offer some advice, because i have a lot of gay/bi friends, and most of my family are completely stupid.

Just roll with it and give your mom some space. Keep some tabs on her through you dad, but nothing really more than that. She will come around eventually, and if she doesn't, then she would probably be more than happy to dump you off on if you ever got in to any sort of real trouble.

Just pretend like you are moved out and try to see everything from that perspective, i guess. Enjoy you boyfriend/partner/whathaveyou and make the most of every day you spend with him. If he makes you happy no is going to stop that from happening except for you.

You have always been a pretty cool person as much as i rib you sometimes. Good luck with everything.
 
I just want to talk the time to thank everyone for their comments and support/ideas on how i can deal with this. I have been talking to one of my best friends and she suggested that i have a sit down with my mother, therapist and I. I think that is what i am going to do. I also think i am going to crash at my friend Adams house until Thursday when the appointment can be. I'll just tell my mother to meet me there and then i can deal with her. I love my mother to death, but right now i just don't see it. I know of her intentions and i know she loves me as a son and it will just take some time for her, just like it did me. I love you guys and you all have been really supportive.
 
Update: The other day when my mother and I ended our conversation she said that she didn't want to talk to me and if i want to talk to call her. What makes her think i want to talk to her after all that she said to me?

Earlier we were sleeping so i didn't hear my phone blow up. After we woke up i heard my phone vibrate i see i have a text message from my mom saying the following; "Have not heard from you, call when you can."

After reading that i see i have a missed call from her. I don't know what to do. Should i call her or not? I am just so blah. I am feeling better though, Justin has been really helpful. He has been out to his parents for a while and him and his mom are great. I am just going to give it some more time.

I will keep you all posted.
 
I would recomend calling her back. She is making an effort to talk to you and as hard as it is, you should really be the bigger person. One of my friends went down this very same path, but decided he was above his mom. He ended up moving away a little under a year ago, and i haven't heard from him in about that same ammount of time.

Pretty much, he was never the same.
 
Kelyon said:
Update: The other day when my mother and I ended our conversation she said that she didn't want to talk to me and if i want to talk to call her. What makes her think i want to talk to her after all that she said to me?

Earlier we were sleeping so i didn't hear my phone blow up. After we woke up i heard my phone vibrate i see i have a text message from my mom saying the following; "Have not heard from you, call when you can."

After reading that i see i have a missed call from her. I don't know what to do. Should i call her or not? I am just so blah. I am feeling better though, Justin has been really helpful. He has been out to his parents for a while and him and his mom are great. I am just going to give it some more time.

I will keep you all posted.
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Told you she would call you :P Anyway, personally I think you should call her back. The text message she left for you makes it sound like she regrets what she's said. Don't call her assuming she'll say she's sorry, though. She'll either say she's sorry etc., or she'll pretend like she never said it and ask you how you are, how your holiday is etc.

Even if she's still mad, angry or w/e, she's still a mother. And like all mothers, she's worried. While she'd likely understand why you don't call her back if you don't, it'll likely only make things worse by having her wait.
 
Currently i have texting with her. I couldn't bring myself to call her. I just texted her back, she asked me what i was doing and when i was coming back. Still and on going conversation.
 
Well, i guess the conversation is over, she started asking how i was, told her i was fine so i asked the same to her;
Me: how are you doing?
Her: How you do you think im doing!?"
Me: I hope better than before.

Been almost a hour, no response.
 
Talk to my dad this morning. It was a calm conversation which was a nice change of pace. He actually asked me how i was doing and how i felt. It was nice to know that he at-least cared about my well-being. Through the grape vine he found out about some blemishes on my neck. Now, he said it bothered him to a point, not so much that he wouldn't want to see me, but my mother would be another story. He wants me to stay until they clear up.

The last thing he told me was that i need to make sure that i am happy. He said to look out for myself, not anyone else. He also made it clear that things are going to change.
 
One last thing. Something that is happening right now is that i am having to try and think of reasons why i would want to stay here. It is scaring me. I feel like i am back in 7th grade.
 
Kelyon said:
One last thing. Something that is happening right now is that i am having to try and think of reasons why i would want to stay here. It is scaring me. I feel like i am back in 7th grade.
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Stay where? In your current situation, at home, the place you're currently at...?
 
Kelyon said:
One last thing. Something that is happening right now is that i am having to try and think of reasons why i would want to stay here. It is scaring me. I feel like i am back in 7th grade.
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Tell your mom you have teh aidz.

/sarcasm

Say you're sick with something and you don't want to get your mom sick.
 
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