Getting a divorce

Myrrh said:
So, Eili....wanna touch my penis?
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C'mon myrhh, I know your trying to lighten her mood but not appropriate. The lady is going through a tough and confusing time. Let's respect that fact a bit more.
 
The sad truth is marriage is just not taken seriously anymore by very many people. More than 1/2 of all marriages fail and even those half that remarry are more than likely to fail again. For "better or worse" are just empty words repeated by some in a meaningless cermony only to be long forgotten 30 seconds later. I'll be married 5 years next month and to say it has been bumpy is an understatement but we do our best to make it work because you have to. Marriage is WORK and there's too many lazy fucks in the world who would rather just get a divorce and take the easy way out than honor the life long commitment they make to another human being.

Ditch this loser ASAP Elli, he's not worth 5 more minutes of your time. Sell the house and tell him and his "friendship" to go to hell...
 
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Tomasello said:
The sad truth is marriage is just not taken seriously anymore by very many people. More than 1/2 of all marriages fail and even those half that remarry are more than likely to fail again. For "better or worse" are just empty words repeated by some in a meaningless cermony only to be long forgotten 30 seconds later. I'll be married 5 years next month and to say it has been bumpy is an understatement but we do our best to make it work because you have to. Marriage is WORK and there's too many lazy fucks in the world who would rather just get a divorce and take the easy way out than honor the life long commitment they make to another human being.

Ditch this loser ASAP Elli, he's not worth 5 more minutes of your time. Sell the house and tell him and his "friendship" to go to hell...
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A+ advice
 
lol I <3 you :D Myrrh
 
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Tomasello said:
The sad truth is marriage is just not taken seriously anymore by very many people. More than 1/2 of all marriages fail and even those half that remarry are more than likely to fail again. For "better or worse" are just empty words repeated by some in a meaningless cermony only to be long forgotten 30 seconds later. I'll be married 5 years next month and to say it has been bumpy is an understatement but we do our best to make it work because you have to. Marriage is WORK and there's too many lazy fucks in the world who would rather just get a divorce and take the easy way out than honor the life long commitment they make to another human being.

Ditch this loser ASAP Elli, he's not worth 5 more minutes of your time. Sell the house and tell him and his "friendship" to go to hell...
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Couldn't agree with you more, especially on the bolded part.

I hope things get a lot better for you Eili! You deserve better.
 
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Myrrh said:
So, Eili....wanna touch my penis?
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Pretty distasteful given the circumstances.

Alereth said:
I've seen the woman walk away with the house the man built with his own hands...
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Yeh, totally don't agree with this at all.

@Eili I have to agree with the majority of QCDN right now. You guys are going to need your space, especially if you still do love him.
 
Tomasello said:
The sad truth is marriage is just not taken seriously anymore by very many people. More than 1/2 of all marriages fail and even those half that remarry are more than likely to fail again. For "better or worse" are just empty words repeated by some in a meaningless cermony only to be long forgotten 30 seconds later. I'll be married 5 years next month and to say it has been bumpy is an understatement but we do our best to make it work because you have to. Marriage is WORK and there's too many lazy fucks in the world who would rather just get a divorce and take the easy way out than honor the life long commitment they make to another human being.

Ditch this loser ASAP Elli, he's not worth 5 more minutes of your time. Sell the house and tell him and his "friendship" to go to hell...
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Agreed 100% with this.

It's the kids that have kids as kids, and get married because of the kid that end up failing. It's not even the kids fault yet the parents will blame the kid. No you made the choice, outside of rape, to have sex. The consequence of heterosexual sex is reproduction.
 
Tomasello said:
The sad truth is marriage is just not taken seriously anymore by very many people. More than 1/2 of all marriages fail and even those half that remarry are more than likely to fail again. For "better or worse" are just empty words repeated by some in a meaningless cermony only to be long forgotten 30 seconds later. I'll be married 5 years next month and to say it has been bumpy is an understatement but we do our best to make it work because you have to. Marriage is WORK and there's too many lazy fucks in the world who would rather just get a divorce and take the easy way out than honor the life long commitment they make to another human being.

Ditch this loser ASAP Elli, he's not worth 5 more minutes of your time. Sell the house and tell him and his "friendship" to go to hell...
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This is a wise wise person
 
Yeah unfortunately the norm has become that there are less and less willing to work on their relationships. My best friend used to have the opinion that you shouldn't have to work if it's true love. I told her for years she was so wrong and sure as shit she's learned that over the years.

There seems to be more and more self centered people. And I truly believe a lot has to do with the progression of our times. Kids aren't being brought up to appreciate the work involved in obtaining their wants. Parents are just bowing down to demands. So for those that start off getting everything they want and never having to work for what they want are more likely to be the ones to give up as soon as shit starts going downhill, it's just too much effort.

Also their seems to be more and more who will take off as soon as they spot the next shiny coin. Problem is if we all did that we'd forever be chasing the next piece of tail and never build the lasting relationships we do when sticking it out and working towards a meaningful and deeper relationship.
 
True love is great and all, but you're still two different people. There are going to be times you don't agree, even if you love each other so much. You have to work through those problems and still remember and hang onto the love :| nothing is easy in life, and nothing should be. We really need to teach parents how two be better parents. Too many spoil their kids in the western world. Too many praise them for doing nothing really, too many coddle them and ya.. this needs to stop :\ people need to learn life is hard and requires hard work to get anywhere. Else, as soon as they get into the real world, they are screwing up their lives and others around them.

Too much instant gratification these days, I agree with that statement.
 
I know you guys are giving the best advice you can, and I do appreciate it. But I think this is the best arrangement for myself at the moment. I am a strong person, I will recover :)
 
Eilistrae said:
But I think this is the best arrangement for myself at the moment. I am a strong person, I will recover :)
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I don't mean to be rude, honest to god, and I welcome you to do whatever you feel is right for you. But I've seen this phrase used several times and it hardly ever ends on a good note.

All the luck and prayers to ya though.
 
If it doesn't, then it doesn't.. I want to try to keep the house though.
 
You can easily keep the house Elli, being a guy, its takes some pretty serious shit to make you make an about face like this all of a sudden. Not to be a negative nancy, but my moneys on the fact that he either is, or was, cheating on you and either a) feels bad and wants to give you your freedom, or b) wants to take things further with the other person.

Just my 2 cents is all.

P.S. Space is needed to heal w/e wounds will be left from this divorce, staying together because of "friendship" and "economical stability" will only aggravate those wounds even though its not apparent right now. Of course this is all advice and as we all know, advice is meant to be given, but doesnt HAVE to be taken. Good luck.
 
After thinking a LOT, I am selling the house, and I am going to temporarily move back in with my parents. I appreciate everything you all have said, it gave me things to think about.
 
I really think you're making the right choice my dear. And with time it'll all become easier as I'm sure you know. Stick it out, and take care of you =)
 
Lawyer up, kick his ass to the curb, throw away all his shit.
 
I have a lawyer, I'm going to see her tomorrow. He is SUPER pissed that I'm moving out and not staying here and living with him. I said I'd continue to pay bills/mortgage until the house was sold, but he doesn't care, he's just mad I'm not staying, wtf!!!
 
I am really happy to hear that you have made the choice you have, Eilistrae. Staying with him during this time would be nothing but a poison to you. You are a strong young woman and I know everything will turn out for the best in the end. Everything happens for a reason. He's mad? So what? You need to focus on Eilistrae and Eilistrae alone at this time ;)
 
WTF does HE have to be mad about? >.> This is all his doing anyways (well he started this whole process, but I can't say he was responsible since I have no idea what's going on).

If he tries and fight it, lawyer up :|
 
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