Kids and the N word

Blacks should worry less about who is using ni99er, and more about why their kids act like ni99ers.

Damn I am busy at work; otherwise I would be able to make a good, lengthy post. I think we (speaking as a black person) should concentrate more on showing kids how to not accept the "Ni99er" mentality that has been placed on black people by society.

Keyword there is Society.

"You can only be destroyed by believing that you really are what the white world calls a ******" (James Baldwin)


Black people have so many subcultures that it’s hard to give a definite reason as to why some black people use the word. I don’t use it really, but on occasion I have for humor. Frankly it’s not a word that I would want to own and just wasn't raised to use it.



lol, our culture is as stupid and at a loss of logic as any other culture on this planet. We form general feelings over certain words we create and use those words against our fellow citizens. I find taking offense in any man made slur is fairly retarded and should reflect upon the intelligence of the user more than the receiver. Give me a logical insult to me that can surpass my mental temperance and I'll show you an insult worth taking in.

As much as I would like to agree with what you say here I cannot. To me, that’s like saying that what you cannot control should not bother you. It’s not likely that anyone here can not be offended by what someone says, even if what that someone says makes them look really stupid.
I’ve been called that "N" word and have had physical pain happen to me with use of that word. I know to some it’s easy to pass if off as only a word, but its hard when more than just a word can come from it. It doesn't bother me as much it used to, it’s mainly the context in how the word is said or the feelings behind it.

I remember one day being called a ****** in high school by some asshole and pretty much verbally ripped him a new one. I told him that any idiot could call me a ni99er, and that he should have been more creative. I then pretty much told him a list of slag words that could have been used instead and had the class laughing. Since then it changed for me.



Darkness out
 
Valoran said:
Anger at this history isn't illegitimate, and there aren't a lot of ways to "express the anger" as you put it. The people who are angry because someone using this word thinks they've "got it over on them" are angry because those people DO have it over on them. Four, five generations from slaveholding populations, and the inherited wealth of a number of families has been generated by the fact that their businesses could be run on slave labor without cost above providing subsistence living and mass housing. Not to mention systematic cultural rape. Meanwhile, the people who were exploited and raped are expected to walk up to the bank in their hometown, say, "we're equals now," get a middle-class job and immediately equalize the economic disparity?

My heritage is largely Irish and Native American. That means roughly half my ancestors were being shot like coyotes while the other half were waiting for the jury to come back in on the question as to whether or not they should be considered white. Know why it was Irish dock workers catchin the bales of cotton being thrown off the barges? The Irish had no monetary value. No one cared if they got hurt. Trust me, the line of my heritage is no stranger to oppression.

The same cannot be said of me, however.

My family tree consists of people who were dirt farmers, sharecroppers, coal miners, people who who have lived dirt poor and are only just now climbing into what one might consider "middle class." We never owned any slaves, nor did the overwhelming majority of families in this nation.

By separate turns, I've been called redneck, redskin, hillbilly, cracker, white trash, and (my personal favorite) trailer trash. If I were to take offense every time it's been intended, I assure you, a great many people would still be wearing my displeasure; however, I don't let them dictate to me who I am. They can be ignorant dipshits to their hearts' respective contents. It's no skin off my back.

They don't define me. I do.
 
My heritage is largely Irish and Native American. That means roughly half my ancestors were being shot like coyotes while the other half were waiting for the jury to come back in on the question as to whether or not they should be considered white. Know why it was Irish dock workers catchin the bales of cotton being thrown off the barges? The Irish had no monetary value. No one cared if they got hurt. Trust me, the line of my heritage is no stranger to oppression.

The same cannot be said of me, however.

My family tree consists of people who were dirt farmers, sharecroppers, coal miners, people who who have lived dirt poor and are only just now climbing into what one might consider "middle class." We never owned any slaves, nor did the overwhelming majority of families in this nation.

By separate turns, I've been called redneck, redskin, hillbilly, cracker, white trash, and (my personal favorite) trailer trash. If I were to take offense every time it's been intended, I assure you, a great many people would still be wearing my displeasure; however, I don't let them dictate to me who I am. They can be ignorant dipshits to their hearts' respective contents. It's no skin off my back.

They don't define me. I do.

THANK YOU!

Why do people hold grudges our ancestors made when those problems dont occur anymore? Ignorance. That would be like America still hating the British, but instead they're (see, I used the right "there their they're" grammar police) our allies. Live and learn, respect history but dont fucking live it.
 
My heritage is largely Irish and Native American. That means roughly half my ancestors were being shot like coyotes while the other half were waiting for the jury to come back in on the question as to whether or not they should be considered white. Know why it was Irish dock workers catchin the bales of cotton being thrown off the barges? The Irish had no monetary value. No one cared if they got hurt. Trust me, the line of my heritage is no stranger to oppression.

The same cannot be said of me, however.

My family tree consists of people who were dirt farmers, sharecroppers, coal miners, people who who have lived dirt poor and are only just now climbing into what one might consider "middle class." We never owned any slaves, nor did the overwhelming majority of families in this nation.

By separate turns, I've been called redneck, redskin, hillbilly, cracker, white trash, and (my personal favorite) trailer trash. If I were to take offense every time it's been intended, I assure you, a great many people would still be wearing my displeasure; however, I don't let them dictate to me who I am. They can be ignorant dipshits to their hearts' respective contents. It's no skin off my back.

They don't define me. I do.

All of this is fine, but much of it -- and ESPECIALLY your final statement, proves my point. They don't define you, you do. Similarly, it's not your place to define how other people take a word.

The fact that your family never owned slaves doesn't make you any kind of expert on how the black community should take a racial slur that originated in slavery. If anything, it distances you further.

Your own family's history of oppression may have given you an opportunity to consider where you stand with regards to some cultural insults. You noted yourself that you're currently climbing into the middle class. Perhaps being called a hillbilly would be more difficult if you'd been forced into impoverished living conditions because your ethnic heritage prevented you from getting a job you were qualified for. It's easy to say it isn't skin off your back when it literally isn't: your heritage doesn't seem (from your very brief account) to be inhibiting your life now. But that's not the same as saying that you wouldn't be upset if it did. It WOULD be skin off your back then. And if that skin came because someone didn't like the color of it, or the fact that it came from Ireland centuries ago, the insults might not be as easily ignored.

The Irish immigrant community in Chicago has revitalized several movements for immigrants' rights precisely BECAUSE the Irish look like the Man. They're white and male and they can point back to when they came from the British Isles and movies like Cinderella Man. The face they put on immigrant rights in Chicago is a white face. Quite a contrast to the hispanic woman deported this week without her son after briefly leaving the sanctuary she'd claimed in a Presbyterian Church. If someone called her a "wetback," I imagine she would not be able to shrug it off.

My point is not that everyone should do their best to feel victimized by offensive language. It's that each culture (or subculture, thanks Burne for helping refocus the discussion) should have the right to determine for themselves what to do when confronted by theses slurs. If they want to own it, that's for them. If they want to reject it, that's for them. If they want to use it as a reminder that the struggle for equality isn't over, that's for them.
 
THANK YOU!

Why do people hold grudges our ancestors made when those problems dont occur anymore? Ignorance. That would be like America still hating the British, but instead they're (see, I used the right "there their they're" grammar police) our allies. Live and learn, respect history but dont fucking live it.

While true to some extent, some of these problems do occur still. They are sometimes just blown out of proportion when these thing happen to minorities.

To the OP: Has the parent's of all these kids just try to get to together and talk about this?
 
All of this is fine, but much of it -- and ESPECIALLY your final statement, proves my point. They don't define you, you do. Similarly, it's not your place to define how other people take a word.

The fact that your family never owned slaves doesn't make you any kind of expert on how the black community should take a racial slur that originated in slavery. If anything, it distances you further.

Your own family's history of oppression may have given you an opportunity to consider where you stand with regards to some cultural insults. You noted yourself that you're currently climbing into the middle class. Perhaps being called a hillbilly would be more difficult if you'd been forced into impoverished living conditions because your ethnic heritage prevented you from getting a job you were qualified for. It's easy to say it isn't skin off your back when it literally isn't: your heritage doesn't seem (from your very brief account) to be inhibiting your life now. But that's not the same as saying that you wouldn't be upset if it did. It WOULD be skin off your back then. And if that skin came because someone didn't like the color of it, or the fact that it came from Ireland centuries ago, the insults might not be as easily ignored.

The Irish immigrant community in Chicago has revitalized several movements for immigrants' rights precisely BECAUSE the Irish look like the Man. They're white and male and they can point back to when they came from the British Isles and movies like Cinderella Man. The face they put on immigrant rights in Chicago is a white face. Quite a contrast to the hispanic woman deported this week without her son after briefly leaving the sanctuary she'd claimed in a Presbyterian Church. If someone called her a "wetback," I imagine she would not be able to shrug it off.

My point is not that everyone should do their best to feel victimized by offensive language. It's that each culture (or subculture, thanks Burne for helping refocus the discussion) should have the right to determine for themselves what to do when confronted by theses slurs. If they want to own it, that's for them. If they want to reject it, that's for them. If they want to use it as a reminder that the struggle for equality isn't over, that's for them.

Im assuming by your post that she came here illegaly, and if thats so, she deserves to go back to Mexico (or wherever she comes from) and try it the legit way. Sure alot of Latin america has bad living standards, but by being homeless in America is her life truly any better?
 
While true to some extent, some of these problems do occur still. They are sometimes just blown out of proportion when these thing happen to minorities.

To the OP: Has the parent's of all these kids just try to get to together and talk about this?

I understand what your saying. The problem is that problems occur on every level. Most minorities make a big deal about how the government is screwing them over, and they have a right. However I dont see how lashing out at "the man" (upper-middle class, and even lower class caucasians(sp)) is going to solve anything.

On the flip side, the white folk in certain regions of america are being suppressed by the minorites, but from what Ive noticed they dont make as big a deal out of it. I dont know why, im not taking sides, just pointing out.
 
well!!!
you guys got deep into some specific topics, but im just gonna touch basis on the main situation at hand
those kids...
those little badasses don't know better, they learn this kind of stuff from the media...
now now i know what you're thinking, "damn shidosha, thats some cliche shit to do... blame the media? come on now..."
but if you look on TV or magazines, you see the worst of my culture, hiphop culture being portrayed. n its sad cuz that shit is whats most entertaining...
(damn i wish this forum got more into underground cuz mainstream is a pain... but thats another debate)
another person to blame are the punk ass parents that can't accept their own fault n use the excuse: "well all this stuff airs on television n shows up on the internet, WE HAVE NO CONTROL OVER IT!!!" (you probably heard that when it comes to videogames too =P)
those so called "black leaders" arent doing much of shit either xcept complaining... you'll probably start to see more "action in the community" when their leadership is questioned or they want a seat in congress...

someone mentioned education amongst minorities in here i think...

most ppl in the hood glorify going to prison and doing time
but you're classified as a "bitch ni gg a" when you persuit higher learning
if that ain't the most ignorant shit, i dont know what is...

as a black person, id rather be that "bitch ni gga" that's intelligent & successfull than that dumb ass hoodlegend that didnt live long enough to see his kids get through middle school...
n yes i am black...

i got more to add to this...
but i must save the world
(and please dont try n coin my slang as a form of ignorance...
i'm no dummy n i sho as shit dont need to prove that...
thank you :) )
 
You noted yourself that you're currently climbing into the middle class. Perhaps being called a hillbilly would be more difficult if you'd been forced into impoverished living conditions because your ethnic heritage prevented you from getting a job you were qualified for.

Just as an FYI, early in my life as my father was looking for a better job than his current one loading pulpwood, he applied for a job at Jefferson County Fire and Rescue, perhaps not the best of jobs, but one that had good benefits, didn't require a college degree, and this was during a time when government jobs were a hot ticket in our little corner of the world. His scores were top notch. He was in excellent physical condition, so the stress and endurance tests were a joke to him, yet he didn't get the job. Would you care to guess why?

He was the wrong color.

Now please, don't misunderstand me. I know that there were some very valid and laudable reasons behind Equal Opportunity legislation and the hiring quotas such laws either enforced or inspired, but the fact of the matter remains - members of the Black community aren't the only people who have suffered as a result of systematic discrimination.

Back on my main point - I never tried to dictate a cultural identity to anyone. I simply pointed out that from my perspective, seeking to own the word is a mistake. It doesn't exactly teach anyone not to use it, now does it? I think Sammy J. might have said it best in Coach Carter:

Sammy J. said:
Ni99er is a derogatory term directed against people of African descent. I don't want to hear it used in my presence. When you use it, it teaches him it's ok to use it.
(points to a white member of the team.)
 
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I'm not sure if Amy has considered talking to Barbara or not, I'm very much third-party in these happenings. The kids who were doing the mouthing off are the new kids from a rental house a block over, neither I nor Amy know where they live much less who the parents are. It's such a touchy subject that it wouldn't surprise me if Amy were too frozen by paroxysms of white guilt to even mention the matter to Barbara or her husband.

I had more to say on the subject but three separate kid-related crises over the course of my writing this post have made me lose my train of thought. Maybe later.
 
The word ni**er is one of the most confusing and dynamic words in the english language. The reason being is because the meaning changes depending on who is using it and the tone of voice with which they use it.

If you see a couple of black dudes on the street havin a conversation and you listen in, you might hear the word ni**er no less than 42 times. Possible meanings include: Friend, Enemy, You, Me, Him, Her, Lazy, Hard Working, etc.

These guys can say it all they want without being considered racist. Kinda like when a homosexual calls himself a "faggot". It's almost used in a satirical fashion, as though to show disdain for the people that use it in a serious manor.

The thing is, as a country, we hardly descriminate based on race anymore. Now we are more concerned with class and social standing. It's not black people that act like ni**ers, it's poor people. You are nothing more than a combination of all the people you have met and interacted with throughout your life. A lot of people still don't recognize that. That's why we still say white kids from the hood "talk like they're black" and black people who have been able to overcome the sterotypes and make something of theirselves "talk like they are white".

Eminem doesn't think he is black or talk like he is black, he talks like he is poor and uneducated. Because he is.

Colin Powell doesn't think he is white or talk like he is white, he talks like he is rich and educated. Because he is.

Poor people and rich people have different worries and different problems. They live very different lives and are totally emersed in the culture of their class.

That is why the word Ni**er has outgrown it's usefulness. To me, the only thing that word means is 300 years of oppresion. I don't use it, because I have a plethora of more accuratly descriptive words in my vocabulary. Uneducated people do not. The less educated you are, the more you are going to use the word ni**er.

But that's just my opinion.
 
I grew up in a bad neighborhood and went to the underfunded inner city school, where people used the word all the time. But now that I've gone to college, when I come back to tutor. or speak at my school, or tutot at my church, I tell the kids the same thing my great-grandmother told me. People that struggled through the civil rights movement didn't do all that to stop people from calling them that word, only to have their children and grandchildren turn around and use it on themselves. Then I show them the pictures my great grandma showed me with things like whites in this door, and dogs and n****** in this door. It sinks in more, and you hear less kids using, and more importantly you hear kids telling other kids not to use it when they do.

Leaving the "hood" and making a better life is fine, but nothing changes until you come back and show the kids that they can make a nice life for themselves through education and without having to be athletes and rappers.

Edit: After reading all these posts, people shouldn't generalize the entire black commmunity. There are good parents and good families. First thing that needs fixed is education, and single parent homes in close second, because single parents do a good job raising kids, but without education they'll never be able to stand on their own. But when you don't have enough school books for every kid, or the last president in your history books in Jimmy Carter, you have issues. I had to take a bus to another city to find current books to do papers, and I had to take 2 buses to a college my senior year because our school didn't have advanced placement classes. If you work ten times harder than kids in more afluent cities you can get where you want to go, the question is should you have to?

I've been called a n***** before, and I was stopped by police at the bus stop going to the college, and even though I told the cop where I was going, and showed him the college ID. When I told him I was taking classes at that school, he said "yeah right" and ran me in as cutting school, missed both my classes. SO like I said, you can do it if you're motivated but you still have to work 10 times harder and put up with 10 times more crap than other kids in better cities.
 
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She asked me if "honkey" offended me....I just giggled - first of all, we got the LAMEST of all racial slurrs...lol

I prefer cracker myself rofl
 
Didn't read the posts, all I have to say is. Nobody should be saying it, not even black people. Peeps died to try and get rid of that word, and yet people use it. Disrespect man, disrespect....
 
im really tired of the double standard alot of blacks are using. Its ok for them to make fun and talk shit to all the other races, yet God forbid I ever call one a N99ger. Im Mexican and I grew up in a predominately middle to upper class neighboorhood. I grew up where all the mexicans lived and all the blacks (most who were lower class) lived in the only "ghetto" of the town. I grew up in constant conflict with them, and even to this day its hard for me to not generalize them all as thugs. I know they are not all like that, every race has their own group of people who the society disproves of. But when your 15 and the only black people you have ever interacted with are dumb as a rock, steal, cheat, and cause havok, its hard to get that thinking out of your head, expecially when all your friends and family feel the same way.
Im in the Navy now and have meet some really awesome black people, like my Chief. But at the same time, for every one awesome black guy, ive meet 2-3 N99gers still acting like they are civilians. Im not really sure what the point of my post was anymore, but im to lazy toearse it all now.
 
I think Jin Rummy from the Boondocks said it best: "Now don't start trippin and callin me a racist cause I don't mean ni99er in a disrespectful way. I mean it as a general term for ignorant mother fucker."
 
Now please, don't misunderstand me. I know that there were some very valid and laudable reasons behind Equal Opportunity legislation and the hiring quotas such laws either enforced or inspired, but the fact of the matter remains - members of the Black community aren't the only people who have suffered as a result of systematic discrimination.

While I don't mean to take away from the seriousness of that situation for your family, I don't think this can be used as an abstract argument to claim that white people suffer systematized racism. Affirmative action may occasionally correct a balance that has shifted one way too far, but to pull it back towards a more equal balance is not to systematically discriminate. Now, I'm happy to offer a full disclaimer that this is not always the way it happens, and that occasionally a white family will not see a fully earned opportunity. The goal, however, is to prevent the opportunities from being awarded according to race or other non-meritorious considerations.

Back on my main point - I never tried to dictate a cultural identity to anyone. I simply pointed out that from my perspective, seeking to own the word is a mistake.

The bolded part was the language that I didn't see in your original post on the matter, which is what triggered my response. I'm not saying it was bad or wrong or bla bla bla, but that's why I took you to be offering a general principle and not a lived perspective. I think the demand that offended people "grow a sac" was the part that I found most indicative of a lack of openness to the legitimacy of other perspectives.

Trippyhippy said:
These guys can say it all they want without being considered racist. Kinda like when a homosexual calls himself a "faggot". It's almost used in a satirical fashion, as though to show disdain for the people that use it in a serious manor.

I bolded the above because I think it's interesting that the "serious" sense of the term is the offensive one. Just an interesting point about one identity for the word. Serious sense = offensive. Non-serious senses = joking, friendly, angry, internally used? I'm sure that the word choice above wasn't the result of a long linguistic search, but it is interesting.


More generally, I think that the "there's black people and there's ******s" argument that's been offered is bad for a number of reasons. One is that it leaves open an escape route for the truly racist: accused of a racist act, any racist can respond, "Oh, I thought he was one of the ******s, not a black person; my mistake." This isn't good enough, and it leaves open the problems Aaleel was mentioning about racial profiling, etc. Another problem is that it tries to solve social issues by simply saying, "Some people are bad." This isn't a solution, and it's almost always an incomplete description.

Poverty leads to domestic anxiety leads to domestic strife leads to kids with anger that can't express it. To say, "Kids X, Y, and Z are good and therefore can be called 'black people.' Kids A, B, and C are bad and therefore must be called ******s," is not a solution; it's a way to categorize and legitimize racism, and that's not good enough. Describing the problem in terms that place the blame as fully away from social conditions (which are, after all, the only thing society can tinker with to try to help the situation) as possible is not a way to deal with race problems.

On a slightly separate note, I just looked up the etymology of "Yankee" to compare.

The Oxford English Dictionary said:
The two earliest statements as to its origin were published in 1789: Thomas Anburey, a British officer who served under Burgoyne in the War of Independence, in his Travels II. 50 derives Yankee from Cherokee eankke slave, coward, which he says was applied to the inhabitants of New England by the Virginians for not assisiting them in a war with the Cherokees; William Gordon in Hist. Amer. War states that it was a favourite word with farmer Jonathan Hastings of Cambridge, Mass., c 1713, who used it in the sense of ‘excellent’. Appearing next in order of date (1822) is the statement which has been most widely accepted, viz. that the word has been evolved from North American Indian corruptions of the word English through Yengees to Yankees (Heckewelder, Indian Nations iii. ed. 1876, p. 77); cf. YENGEES.
Perhaps the most plausible conjecture is that it comes from Du. Janke, dim. of Jan John, applied as a derisive nickname by either Dutch or English in the New England states (J. N. A. Thierry, 1838, in Life of Ticknor, 1876, II. vii. 124). The existence of Yank(e)y, Yankee, as a surname or nickname (often with Dutch associations) is vouched for by the following references:
1683 Cal. St. Papers, Colon. Ser. (1898) 457 They [sc. pirates] sailed from Bonaco..; chief commanders, Vanhorn, Laurens, and Yankey Duch. 1684 Ibid. 733 A sloop..unlawfully seized by Captain Yankey. 1687 Ibid. (1899) 456 Captains John Williams (Yankey) and Jacob Everson (Jacob). 1687-8 MSS. Earl of Dartmouth in 11th Rep. Hist. MSS. Comm. App. v. 136 The pirates Yanky and Jacobs. 1697 DAMPIER Voy. I. iii. 38. 1725 Inventory of W. Marr of Carolina in N. & Q. 5th Ser. X. 467 Item one negroe man named Yankee to be sold.
Cf. also ‘Dutch yanky’ s.v. YANKY.]

If the term comes either from the cherokee word for slave/coward or from the corruption of the native Americans trying to say "English," then the use of it by the British was either a term of opprobrium calling the American colonists slave/cowards or it was a racial slur associating them with native Americans, who the British believed were inferior intellectually and culturally.

Any way you slice it, Yankee was a slur that got claimed by the American colonists and underwent a radical transformation. The fact that its etymological origins are rooted in slavery or racial slurs is a really interesting parallel. How would we react to a baseball team named the ******s?
 
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