My goodness, you would think that after 2+ years red mages (and up and coming rdms) would just figure this all out. Its not a matter of being able to do everything including meleeing, its where your priorities should be: to kill mobs fast and continue killing mobs fast, even moreso, killing NONSTOP. Ask yourself, how do you do that?
Will your sword with enspell be more effictive doing 30 dmg vs a hasted melee that can do that by considerably more per hit? Or did you waste enspell mp, or opportunities to Regen MP in which you couldve used on something else like a MB, dot, enfeeble, or haste?
IMO SE should just nerf swords for PLD/RDM, that way plds will just use a staff and the TP issue becomes less for the Rdms to complain about (lol staff), and rdms dont waste time engaging a mob during an XP PT.
My thoughts - If you're happy with a 3k an hour pick up PT with a meleeing rdm that can do everything, thats fine, but not everyone is. Even at 6k an hour, I myself playing as rdm, found it pointless (quite early on) to do anything but enfeeble/haste/heal/rest mp. I also believe RDM meleeing is a fad from the allakazham board that people seem to deem as truth, and continue to. [Not to say they can't, rather, why bother]
If there is a WHM in the PT, the RDM should be helping to hasting the melees, because the WHM need time to Regen MP... You're not given haste to benefit yourself. Think logically for a minute, will the WHM get much time to rest during a fight? With a NIN tank I could see a dedicated WHM (and I have) that likes to haste everyone and has no problem with it. But, Haste is usually cast near the end of fights, and between pulls so it lasts the duration of a fight, but between pulls is prime time for WHM will rest their MP... 4-5 people to haste is not always an easy load on a WHM's responsibilities. RDM usually stands so the winner is. . . quite clear IMO where priorities are in who can help haste - to partially help out to be a more efficient and effective party member.
And if you have a Bard rather than WHM, Rdms will usually haste people on their own, so in other words... YOU HASTE. I'm sure some people here have no problem booting RDM's that get prissy, and will boot before you even get the satisfaction of warping out on them. It's also quite easy to say you do your job well, even I can say that for a job I've never levelled: "I can play DRK really well, my ABSORB-CHR makes me a valuable PT member so I'll always get parties!" Not true is it?
I've met only two bad WHMS, ten-fold that at least on RDMs.