Only time I ever ran into lyndis (if i remember correctly) was when I was helping a friend do G3 and we all got killed

I asked her for raise and she was kind, polite, and helpful.
From what I have seen it would seem that cubswoo knows his shit though.
Just to throw my opinion on rdms out there, these are my feelings...
1) Refresh = pld, whm, self, blm, whoever, whatever - just refresh the pld and whm please. Manage pt mp, it's your job.
2) Dispel buffs / debuff the mob. Also, If you see (Dispel) (Please) in the /p log just do it. Don't say 'I know' because that shit has probably been going on for ten minutes and you haven't noticed.
3) Melee if you want, but don't forget dispel and refresh.
4) Your tp is virtually useless - please just rest in between fights.
5) Stay the fuck away from the skillchain unless you are mb'ing it.
Refresh, dispel, do whatever else you want. If you are a rdm you are invited to a pt to manage mp and help the whole pt gain xp. The job is 'Red Mage' not 'Red Warrior', cast first, melee second please, pay attention to your job.